03/05/2025
A Doctor's Invitation To Check In With Yourself: Why Your Nervous System Keeps Looking for a Savior (and How to Break Free)
As a doctor, I witness it daily — the quiet unraveling of the human nervous system, frayed not only from physical stress, but from the relentless hum of cultural noise. The drip-feed of media, messaging, and manufactured urgency that slowly etches itself into the body keeping us locked in cycles of fear, dependency, and reactive outrage.
Beneath all this - something far older, more primal - is at play.
The ancient wiring of our nervous system is always scanning for a savior.
This isn’t a political issue. It’s a profoundly human one. Our brains and bodies are designed to scan for threats and look for a leader—someone, something, or some ideology to rescue us from uncertainty, complexity, and fear.
This longing - for safety in the shape of certainty - is tender and understandable. Yet in the hands of those who guard themselves with rigid minds, inflated egos, binary visions, and emotional manipulation, this longing becomes not a refuge, but a doorway through which manipulation quietly slips in.
Neuroception: How Your Body Decides Who to Trust
Your nervous system is always assessing: Am I safe? Am I in danger? Do I need to fight, flee, freeze—or fawn?
When a message intentionally triggers fear, it shifts you into survival mode—your breath shortens, your muscles tense, your thinking narrows. Your body starts scanning for who or what will make the fear go away.
This is where Power vs. Force by David Hawkins offers a gentle lantern for the path ahead:
• Force operates from fear, control, manipulation, and division. It demands obedience through coercion, outrage, and external pressure. Messages driven by force make you feel small, afraid, and powerless—unless you submit to the solution they’re offering.
• Power is grounded in truth, presence, and an inner sense of knowing. It doesn’t demand, threaten, or control—it invites. True power doesn’t need to manipulate your nervous system into compliance; it speaks, and you recognize it.
When you find yourself hooked by messaging that feels urgent, intense, and divisive—ask yourself:
• Is this inviting me to think critically, or is it forcing me into blind allegiance?
• Does this expand my awareness, or does it make me feel constricted, desperate, and reactive?
• Does this person/message/product make me feel like I need THEM to be safe, whole, or validated?
Why We Keep Being Pulled Back In
We live in a world that thrives on crisis-driven survival mode—because a dysregulated nervous system is easier to manipulate.
• If you’re afraid, you’ll keep consuming media that gives you a false sense of control.
• If you’re angry, you’ll attach yourself to leaders who promise to punish your enemies.
• If you’re powerless, you’ll look for a savior to make things right.
But force-based leadership doesn’t want you to be empowered—it wants you to be dependent. It keeps you addicted to the cycle: problem, panic, savior, repeat.
Breaking Free: Reclaiming Inner Sovereignty
If you recognize yourself in this cycle, take heart. There are ways to step off the carousel:
1. Regulate First, Think Second. Before reacting to any media, speech, or crisis, pause. Breathe. Calm your nervous system. Fear-based states shut down critical thinking.
2. Question the Hook. If a message demands your belief through fear, urgency, or outrage—step back. Ask: Who benefits from my fear?
3. Cultivate Inner Authority. True power isn’t found in external saviors—it’s built internally. The more centered, calm, and discerning you are, the less susceptible you become.
4. Disconnect from Force-Based Inputs. If a voice consistently makes you feel smaller, angrier, or more reactive, cut back. Notice how your body feels without it.
5. Seek Power, Not Force. Power speaks softly but confidently. It doesn’t need to coerce, shame, or scare you into submission. The more you align with inner power, the more you can recognize when someone is just selling you fear.
The health of your nervous system is not only a personal matter - it is a cultural act of resistance. Take care of it. Learn to recognize the difference between leadership that empowers you—and leadership that just wants you dependent, afraid, and obedient.
Inner clarity is a quiet revolution.
Real power doesn’t scream for your obedience. It holds out its hand.
It leaves you taller, wider, more whole.