12/16/2025
You may have heard the saying: “dress for the job you want, not the job you have”—and this of course is about more than just clothes
It’s about mindset- identity- expectation
It's about no longer showing up like someone hoping to be chosen… but someone who belongs in the role you desire.
Dear wife, the same is true in marriage
Continuing to "dress" for the marriage you HAVE looks like continuing to shrink your needs and expectations, tolerate emotional/physical disconnect, and settle for less because it feels realistic
It feels a lot like talking yourself into accepting “these are the cards I’ve been dealt” and “there’s not much that can be done about it”
But when you dress for the marriage you WANT, everything shifts…
👉 You expect partnership instead of solo efforts.
👉 You speak your needs instead of silently adapting to not having them met.
👉 You trust your spouse to adjust and grow along with you instead of assuming right now is the best your marriage can ever be.
Just like in a career, raising the standard isn’t naive or arrogant—it’s clarity. It’s deciding you won’t keep showing up like someone whose needs are unrealistic, or optional.
Dressing for the marriage you want means embodying the woman who values mutual and higher quality efforts, who understands that wanting more isn't selfish, and who trusts that she and her partner haven't even scratched the surface of their potential together ❤️🔥
It's time to stop perpetually trying to convince yourself that the current role is enough and instead, start showing up like the next level is not only desired… it’s DESERVED.
I believe more is possible for you too. That's why I created a value-packed, condensed, coaching & support program titled, "It Starts With You: A Wife's Accelerated Path to a Happier Marriage."
🔗 Check out my website for more details and book a FREE call with me to learn more.
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