01/25/2017
Trauma Victims Need to Process the Experience with a Thera**st
By Peggy J. Hogan, Licensed Professional Counselor (Fitzgerald)
As a mental health thera**st, I have victims of trauma come to me experiencing symptoms of depression, anxiety, problems sleeping, nightmares, audio and/or visual hallucinations, and other evidence of being stuck in the throes of various Adjustment Disorders or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Being told to “just get over it” just adds to the difficulties being experienced. Time and being able to process the event with a sympathetic, non-judgmental listener is what the victim is in most need. Trauma is experienced due to many different situations i.e. r**e, automobile accidents, any life-threatening event, such as the tornado that devastated our community last weekend.
Many years ago, when getting off work after dark, I was attacked by an attempted ra**st. I was fortunate enough to defend myself adequately and he ran off saying, “I’m sorry ma’am, forget it happened.” Forget? It took years to even be able to drive up to my home after dark and muster the courage to get out of my car and put the key into my front door lock. The horrible fear of someone coming around my house out of the dark and grabbing me was overwhelming! My windows were shut tight and locked with wood stakes placed diagonally across them for more security. My peripheral vision was nearly to the back of my head!! I lived in a constant state of anxiety. I had nightmares of the attacker running up and grabbing me and my waking up from the nightmare was absolutely the most fear I had ever experienced. It took several years for me to overcome the trauma from this event.
In therapy, the victim is able to tell and retell their story, exacting every ounce of blame to the point the anger and emotional pain begins to give way to forgiveness. Or, process the event to the point the victim is ready to begin writing their new life story rather than continue writing more chapters of the hurt and horror of their traumatic experience. It’s very important for the thera**st to never hurry the process but allow the victim to set the pace.
Family and friends may get tired of hearing it again and again, but a trained thera**st never gets tired of hearing it and knows there will be a break-thru at some point and it is worth the wait to see the victim no longer a victim.
As we realize the repercussions of what took place last weekend, we may experience vicarious trauma symptoms. I, for one, have already experienced such sadness to tears of what the experience must have been like for those killed in the tornado in Adel. My heart breaks for these families who lost their loved ones. As a thera**st, I encourage anyone who needs to talk about their experience to call my office. We are available to assist you even if you cannot pay.