03/01/2018
This is really amazing.
I grew up on the streets. We were dirt poor and after my dad went to prision, it got even worse. When we did live in a house, it was in the projects, and when we didn’t? We were homeless, eating out of dumpsters or sleeping in shelters.
And do you know what you never see in those places? On the streets? Or in DV shelters?
Women breastfeeding.
Then we got a new dad and all of that changed. He was our Papa until the day he got arrested for Pe******ia. Trust me, I know its heavy to hear and even easier to ignore —predators and children— but it’s my truth.
And do you know what I learned all those years? I learned that my body wasn’t really mine— its true purpose? To remain attractive for men. But wait, isn’t that what society teaches us too? This engrained generational belief- that women are here for the pleasure and servitude of man-so that the female body is then universally seen as purely sexual.
The remaining years of my childhood were spent in foster care. And you know what else you never see in foster homes?
Women breastfeeding.
I was the first, in my direct community, to change this. ‘Of course I’ll breastfeed,’ I’d think as I clicked on nursing covers in my registry, ‘but only because its whats best for my child.’ Then I had Lilly and all, of, that, changed.
Breastfeeding melted the shame I’ve carried with me simply because I was a girl. It gave me back the me I didn’t even realize I’d lost.
It was, the very first time I saw my body as my own.
See, what happened was that one day I had breasts and then the next day those very same breasts, produced milk.
The breasts I was taught were only for ‘him,’ now sustained ‘her’ life.
Revolutionarily.
Breastfeeding completely exploded the worlds pornographic view I carried of myself, and all women. Its like walking through life unable to smell but not knowing it, until you’re holding the most fragrant apricot colored rose.
And your mind explodes.
Everything changes.
Its because of that I don’t see a need to cover up.
Its because of that I have never been more proud to be a woman.
Its because of this, that I choose to normalize something that was not normal for me growing up. | 📸