08/29/2025
“Do Not Ask Your Children to Strive” by William Martin
About the Poem
William Martin’s “Do Not Ask Your Children to Strive” (from The Parent’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents, 1999) is a piece of reflective, meditative wisdom literature inspired by Taoist philosophy. Instead of urging children to chase after prestige, achievement, or “extraordinary” success, Martin calls parents to guide them toward presence, simplicity, and wonder.
The poem emphasizes that the richness of life lies not in fame or accomplishment but in the ability to savor what is near and real—ripe fruit, human touch, shared grief, and quiet joy. Martin suggests that if children are nurtured in this awareness, the “extraordinary” will arise naturally from their authentic living.