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12/12/2023

Did you know this?..... I did not ❤
The partridge in a pear tree is Jesus Christ. Two turtle doves are the Old and New Testaments. Three French hens stand for faith, hope, and love. The four calling birds are the four gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. The five golden rings recalled the Torah or Law, the first five books of the Old Testament. The six geese a-laying stand for the six days of creation. Seven swans a-swimming represent the sevenfold gifts of the Holy Spirit--Prophesy, Serving, Teaching, Exhortation, Contribution, Leadership, and Mercy. The eight maids a-milking are the eight Beatitudes. Nine ladies dancing are the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit--Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self Control. The ten lords a-leaping are the Ten Commandments. The eleven pipers piping stand for the eleven faithful disciples. The twelve drummers drumming symbolize the twelve points of belief in the Apostles' Creed..... NOW YOU KNOW ..COPY AND PASTE
Merry Christmas!!

06/14/2022

People talk about "the stages of grief" as though there will be an ending to this pain. But, that's just not true. We will always carry the grief and sorrow of our child who is no longer here with us. This is a grief that will never, ever end -- not completely.

02/23/2022

The grief triggers seem to pop up out of nowhere. A smell. A certain look. Seeing the same hat that your child wore. Riding past the school. Walking down an aisle in the grocery store that has all of his favorite foods. It doesn't have to be a big thing that begins that fresh wave of grief. In fact, most often it's something small that has been stored in the memory. The memories -- such blessings and so much sorrow.

02/18/2022

Others often have such unrealistic expectations for those who are grieving the loss of their child. Somehow they expect things to "get back to normal" with a certain timeline. Somehow they think that life will eventually move on without skipping much of a beat. Somehow they think that our grief will be able to be tucked away neatly in a little closet never to return again. Sadly, that is far, far from the way grieving the loss of a child works. The grief and sadness will always be there. There is no end to this kind of grief. This is a that will last with a parent forever.

01/21/2022

The day she dies a piece of you will die too. You’ll learn this is a piece that you cannot fill. It is a piece that cannot be replaced by anything, ever.

The day she dies you’ll stop breathing for a moment too. You’ll wonder how the world around you continues to go on.

The day she dies you’ll start a new life. Your new life will be motherless. It will be different than before, in the most painful and heartbreaking way.

The day she dies you will look around and question everything. You’ll question your faith, your last words, and every moment you spent away from her. Your questions will never be answered, but keep asking anyway.

The day she dies you’ll be in complete disbelief. You will refuse to accept this reality but it will stay with you. One day the debilitating reality will sink in. This day is just as bad as the day she dies.

The day she dies you will be frozen with heartbreak, confusion and terror. You will develop new anxieties and fears you never had before. Some days these new fears will be debilitating.

The day she dies, you become an adult. The kind of adult that doesn’t have a mother. That is a different kind of adult than before, trust me.

The day she dies you will long for her hug, her kiss, her time and her presence. This longing never goes away.

It stays with you, but so does she, because…

The day she dies you gain the most beautiful angel. You can’t see her, but she is there, just as she promised.

The day she dies you will look around and be grateful for all of the people there supporting you and helping you pick up the pieces. The people that show up are your people. Never forget the ones that showed up, they are special.

The day she dies you’ll learn that you loved so hard, so deeply, so purely, that you will now grieve hard because of that beautiful love.

The day she dies you’ll learn that she loved you beyond measure. She mothered you more beautifully than any Hallmark movie. She believed in you more than you’ve ever believed in yourself. You’ll realize that she took care of you like you were the most precious cargo on the planet, even as an adult.

The day she dies you’ll realize, without hesitation, that she was the most amazing woman you’ve ever known and will ever know.

The day she dies you’ll appreciate her more than you ever have, and you’ll pray to have her back. Unfortunately, no prayers can bring her back. No wishes can make her appear.

So when she dies, remember her smile, remember her love, and remember her life.
Never forget her and everything that she was because the day she dies, you become her legacy.

xox, Chels

Written by Chelsea Ohlemiller.
Originally published here (2019): http://hopeandharshrealities.com/the-day-she-dies/

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