Dreamspired Doula and Lactation services

03/08/2026

Just say NO to delivering on your back!!!The best position for YOU to deliver in is NOT the one your OB wants you to be in.

Hospitals historically used lithotomy because it gives providers the best access to the perineum and birth ca**l.
But research shows this convenience comes at a cost to the birthing person.
Risks & Downsides (What the Evidence Shows)
1. Works Against Gravity
Pushing uphill slows descent and makes contractions feel more painful.

2. Narrows the Pelvic Outlet
Back‑lying positions restrict sacral movement and reduce pelvic space, making birth mechanically harder.

3. Higher Rates of Interventions
Studies show lithotomy is associated with:

More episiotomies

More perineal tears

Higher risk of a**l sphincter injury

Increased likelihood of forceps/vacuum or cesarean

4. More Pain & Longer Labor
A 2016 study found lithotomy increases pain and prolongs the second stage.

5. Reduced Blood Flow
Back‑lying positions can compress major blood vessels, reducing oxygen flow to the baby.

03/07/2026

💙 Every pregnancy begins differently — but your body often gives early hints before you even take a test.

From sore breasts to mood swings or food cravings, these small changes are your body’s way of preparing for something big. 🌼

If you think you might be pregnant, take a test and check in with your doctor for confirmation and guidance. And while waiting, treat your body with care — eat well, rest, and avoid alcohol and smoking. 🤍

💬 Have you ever noticed early signs of pregnancy before taking a test? Share your experience below!

Inspired by pregnancybirthbaby.org.au

03/07/2026

Denmark just took a major step.

They are moving to end the “cry it out” method after a nationwide review and more than 700 psychologists raised concerns about potential risks to brain development and attachment.

Let that sink in.

Over 700 psychologists.

The study looked at what happens when babies are left to cry for extended periods. Researchers linked prolonged crying without response to elevated stress hormones and possible long term impacts on brain development and emotional bonding.

And honestly?

None of this surprises me.

We have known for years that babies are not manipulating. They are not testing you. They are not trying to control the house at 2 AM.

They are signaling.

A baby’s nervous system is immature. Their stress response system is still developing. When they cry, cortisol rises. When they are comforted, their system regulates.

That regulation is not weakness. That is brain wiring.

Responsive caregiving helps build secure attachment. Secure attachment supports emotional regulation, resilience, and cognitive growth long term.

This is not about shaming parents who have used certain methods. Many parents were told it was the gold standard. Many were exhausted and doing their best with the information they had.

But we are allowed to grow when the science grows.

Denmark’s decision reflects something bigger: a shift toward understanding early childhood through a neurological and psychological lens, not just a sleep schedule lens.

Sleep matters. Parents matter. But so does how a baby’s developing brain processes stress.

There are gentle, responsive sleep strategies that do not require ignoring distress. There are ways to support sleep without compromising connection.

And at the end of the day, babies are not meant to self soothe in isolation.

They learn to regulate by being regulated.

That is biology. That is attachment. That is development.

We are not creating dependence. We are creating security.

And secure children eventually become independent adults.

If you responded to your baby at 2 AM even when you were exhausted…

You were not creating a bad habit.

You were wiring a brain.

🤍

02/28/2026

Cry it out is not teaching children to self soothe, it actually teaches extinction… that no one will come so it’s not worth the effort

Denmark is officially moving away from the cry it out method after a nationwide study revealed it was still being taught in most municipalities. More than 700 psychologists signed a unified statement urging immediate discontinuation of the practice. They emphasized that prolonged crying without comfort elevates cortisol and affects how the infant brain forms emotional and stress regulation pathways. This national push reflects growing scientific awareness of early neural sensitivity.
Researchers highlight that when babies cry alone, their stress signals rise sharply. Without caregiver response, the brain begins wiring for self protection rather than trust. These early patterns influence later attachment styles emotional stability and even learning behavior. Denmark’s decision aligns with decades of neuroscience showing that infants depend on caregiver regulation to build healthy neural circuits.
Despite this, the cry it out approach continues to be recommended in parts of the U.S. where outdated models of infant independence remain common. Scientists argue that babies do not learn self soothing through isolation. Instead they learn through repeated experiences of comfort which stabilize heart rate breathing and emotional processing. This helps form long term resilience.
Denmark’s shift highlights a global conversation about infant well being. The science is clear. Responding to a baby’s distress supports healthier development than leaving them to cry alone.

09/06/2025

You get to make choices during your labor

08/22/2025

Good to know 👇

https://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/qa/breasts-saggy-weaning

(Pregnancy is what changes the shape of your breasts, and these changes occur whether you nurse or not)

07/30/2025

Join on August 8th behind Hellen Keller Hospital

Calling all Mamas! 🤱✨ Join us for our upcoming Women's Center event, "The Big Latch On" next Friday, August 8th at Helen Keller Hospital. This event is held annually during World Breastfeeding Week to raise awareness, strengthen community support, and improve the health of children and women worldwide. Bring your little ones, meet other amazing mamas, and enter to win door prizes!

📍 Helen Keller Hospital (Back Lawn)
📅 Friday, August 8
⏰ 10 AM

07/24/2025

A bath is not necessary right away and will remove a very important protective barrier

08/26/2024

Study: Only 2.9% Plan a VBA2C!

We have discussed that only 7% plan a vaginal birth after two or more cesareans.

That was national data published in 2015.

A study of California births, published in 2020, found that only 2.9% plan a vaginal birth after two cesareans (VBA2C.)

Data out of California can be a significant indicator for what is going on nationally as 1 in 8 US births occur there.

Why is the number so low?

As a mother shared: "A provider told me years ago that she had the ACOG rupture rate statistics right in front of her and I had an 80% chance of rupture for a VBA2C and that it is absolutely against medical advice for me to even attempt."

Nowhere in ACOG's VBAC guidelines do they say the uterine rupture rate after two cesareans is 80% or that planning a VBA2C is against medical advice.

Is it any wonder that 97% “choose” a third cesarean when this is the kind of counsel they receive?

Birthing women deserve better.

08/20/2024

⭐️𝐅𝐔𝐍 𝐅𝐀𝐂𝐓!⭐️
Your milk ducts grow with each pregnancy!
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Did you know that women produce significantly more milk with their second babies than with their first?
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Most women who struggled with milk production with their first have an easier time with their second.
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(This does not apply to moms who have medical conditions or issues causing them to have a low supply.)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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❓Did anyone else notice an increase in milk supply with their second baby? Comment below ⬇️
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