02/27/2026
When a parent asks me, “Is this my fault?” it usually comes after a long week.
You talked it through.
You practiced ahead of time.
You tried to prepare for it.
And it still happened.
Most of the time, they’re already carrying more than they show. Replaying the moment. Wondering what they missed. Telling themselves they should have handled it differently.
If we were sitting together and you asked me that, I’d start here.
The part of the brain that helps a child stop and think takes time to develop. When they’re tired or overloaded, that split second between feeling something and acting on it gets harder to reach.
Stopping in real time is hard.
Especially when their system is already full.
That pause is something many kids are still building.
There’s a difference between taking ownership and taking on shame.
Ownership sounds like getting curious about how your child’s brain works and building supports that fit.
Shame sounds like turning it all back on yourself.
If that question has been sitting quietly in the back of your mind, you’re not the only one.
Book a consult through the link in my bio, and we’ll figure out what’s really going on.