09/24/2025
The 4 attachment styles 💕
👫Attachment styles are patterns in how we tend to interact within relationships with other people. They typically develop early in life and remain somewhat stable over time. According to this theory, the patterns we see in our early/childhood relationships influence how we interpret and view our adult relationships, too.
The 4 attachment styles are:
😊Secure😊
•They trust easily, easily discuss upsets, self-reflect & self-regulate often, are okay with being by themselves, and are comfortable being vulnerable when they need to be.
•Characterized by low anxiety and low avoidance, they don’t fear or expect people to abandon them; they trust their relationships and are secure in them.
😥Anxious😥
•They are more sensitive to criticism, have a fear of being abandoned or rejected, have trouble being by themselves, are more likely to feel insecure or jealous, and may seek social validation & approval.
•Characterized by high anxiety & low avoidance, they might be labeled as “clingy” because of their fear of people leaving them.
🥱Dismissive Avoidant🥱
•They are uncomfortable with intimacy & vulnerability, are very independent, have difficulty trusting others, dislike sharing feelings, and fears abandonment so doesn’t let others get close as a protective measure.
•Characterized by low anxiety & high avoidance, they may be labeled as “dismissive” or “distant” because they put walls up, and if people can’t enter they can’t leave either.
😵💫Fearful Avoidant😵💫
•Have a hard time trusting others, have high anxiety & a high fear of rejection, have a hard time self-regulating, and display a combination of anxious and avoidant attachment styles.
•Characterized by high anxiety & high avoidance, they may create a “push-pull” dynamic in relationships because of their conflicting want of love but rejection of intimacy.
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