03/04/2025
Repost from a few years back. Still so true 🩵.
This applies to many things in life. I read this life lesson in a article about a family living on the PCT. It reminded me of how our family has approached water.
If you want your kid to be comfortable in water, the worst time to stop lessons (or playtime at the pool) is when they’re upset.
Our instructors end each lesson after something positive has been accomplished. This reinforces the behaviors we are teaching and makes it more likely that we will see these behaviors repeated in the next lesson. Even if they are still crying, instructors are strategically building upon the skills that will equate to confidence and competence over time.
Small kids and babies communicate their feelings through tears and protests. Crying through an experience doesn’t mean they are in danger, being traumatized, or even that they’re scared. More likely, they are just expressing that they are displeased with the hard work and challenges they are facing in lessons*. Continued hard work is the only way to improve at something that you can’t yet do.
The only way to be safe in the water is to actually learn to swim & self-rescue.
If you stop swim lessons right when your kid is most upset, this will define their entire attitdue towards swimming and lessons. They’ll also be in great danger around water. If you keep going with swim lessons until your kid gains skills and confidence, well, then you will have a safer swimmer!
Likewise, if your kiddo has a scare during swim time with your family (they stay under longer than they wanted, struggle to get to the edge, fall off a raft, etc.) it is very important not to end the swim day while they are upset. Stay in the pool and create at least a few minutes of a calm and safe experience in the water. If this means you are holding them, this is fine. There is nothing wrong with a kiddo who knows water can be scary and wants to be held by a parent.
Keep going until your kid gets skills and confidence and believe me you’ll be glad you didn’t quit.
*As always, be sure you are taking lessons with a highly trained and certified instructor.