Kimberley Schoenle LLC

Kimberley Schoenle LLC Licensed Mental Health Counselor in the Fort Wayne area offering compassionate in-person and teletherapy.

Specializing in treatment for OCD, addictions, trauma, and couple's therapy.

08/23/2023
09/19/2022

Our Anxiety Workshop for Parents is a 4-week workshop educating parents on the differences between stress and anxiety and how to recognize even the surprising ways it can show up in their child’s behavior. The workshop provides parents with practical ways to regulate their own overwhelming emotion...

09/12/2022

As one of the leading causes of death in the United States, su***de affects all ages and types of people. If you or someone you know are struggling with suicidal thoughts and feelings, remember that there are resources available to help you. http://counseling.org/SPM

https://www.claritycounselingfortwayne.com/kimschoenle
04/18/2022

https://www.claritycounselingfortwayne.com/kimschoenle

 I consider it an honor to serve in this field and am available to discuss your personal mental health goals.  I received my masters degree in clinical mental health counseling from Cornerstone University and bring experience working with both individuals and groups. It is my privilege to work wit...

02/24/2022
02/16/2022

Crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system.

Oxytocin is released.

This is why we all feel so good after a big cry. There’s a sense of calm. Peace + relaxation after the release.

Crying is our body’s way of cleansing intense emotions + stabilizing the nervous system. It’s an energetic release that the body naturally does to cope with overwhelm.

If you start to pay attention, you’ll notice that 9 times out of 10 people’s first response to someone crying is “don’t cry.”

We say this to children. To adults. To anyone who’s crying because most of us have been raised in homes without emotional awareness.

We struggle to understand our emotions— or to hold space for other people who experience intense emotions.

We tell people to stop crying because it’s habit + because we are uncomfortable.

Normalizing crying is so important. Allowing people to cry is a true gift. We just have to learn to be comfortable in sitting with someone’s tears.

HERE ARE SOME THINGS TO DO WHEN SOMEONE STARTS CRYING:

1. Breathe. If you didn’t grow up in a home with emotional awareness, you might automatically say “don’t cry” or “it’s ok.” Pause before you speak it. Just stay conscious + present.

2. As they’re crying, you can ask “is there any way i can support you right now?” They might not answer or may not know. That’s ok, too. They may just want to vent or talk, so listen.

3. If you are in a safe relationship + know this persons likes physical touch, offer that. Silence and the human touch is a healer.

4. Be open: stay conscious to what’s happening within you. Are you uncomfortable or anxious? This will give you a lot of awareness for how your own emotions were dealt with growing up

01/09/2022

Treatment for children, adolescents, adults, and couples. Specializing in trauma, OCD, play therapy,

12/02/2021

Breathing can lead to weight loss?

I was listening to a lecture in my Integrative Nutrition program this week by Dr. Libby Weaver and was astonished by her claim that you can lose weight through breathing.

Where was this information after all the Thanksgiving feasts last week?!

To explain the premise, hang with me through this quick anatomy/neurology lesson so we can get to the interesting stuff:

In our body, we have the autonomic nervous system (ANS) which regulates a lot of the bodily processes that we don't have to think about (heart beat, breathing, digestion, etc). The ANS is divided into two main parts: the sympathetic nervous system (which controls our "fight or flight" response) and our parasympathetic nervous (which brings us back to our resting state).

Here's the crazy part:

Our breathing can actually send messages to our brain about whether to remain in fight or flight response or return to our resting state.

Pause for a moment and take note of your breathing right now.

How far down into your chest are you breathing?

If you watch a baby breathe, they naturally breathe in and out through their nose, causing their belly to rise and fall.

But somewhere along the line, we start to be overcome by stress and anxiety and we tend to only breathe in the upper part of our chest, which results in short and shallow breaths.

As long as we breathe this way, our brain will keep our body in fight or flight mode.

But, get this:

When we take a deep breath that goes all the way down to our stomach (causing it to expand) and let it out in a long, slow exhale, we send a signal to every cell in our body that we are safe and that our body can return to its "rest and digest" state.

You've felt this before, right?

Even one deep breath can start to take away the stress and bring your body more into a calm and relaxed state.

So here's how it ties to our weight:

When our body is in fight or flight mode, it turns to glucose (sugar) as its primary fuel. That's not a bad thing if we have a momentary stressor. But if we stay in a stressed state for an extended period of time, our body starts to worry that it is going to run out of that fuel.

Have you ever fallen prey to stress eating? Part of that may just be us wanting to eat our feelings away. But stress eating is also partially due to our brain causing us to crave sweet foods to replenish our sugar levels so we have enough fuel to escape the danger (our perceived stress).

When we are in that fight or flight state, our body doesn't burn any fat because (unlike sugar) fat is a slow-burn energy. So fat is not as useful in a moment of crisis.

So think about the ramifications of this:

If you or I live in a regular state of stress, our body is going to primarily run off sugar and not burn any fat. If we are wanting to lose weight, our stress is causing our body to fight AGAINST that goal.

BUT when we take deep "belly breaths," we can help our body return to a resting state where it is able to burn up our fat stores as a longer-lasting fuel.

Dr. Weaver tells two stories to illustrate this reality. The first is of a woman who trained for and ran the New York marathon, ate a really healthy diet throughout the process, but ended up gaining 26 lbs during this time because of high stress levels. The second story is of Dr. Weaver herself. She went from one season where she was running miles every day to another where she didn't have time to run because she was leading health retreats filled with tai chi classes and light walks. And yet during this season (where her diet didn't change), she lost weight because she was practicing deep, diaphragmatic breathing every day, giving her body more time in the "rest and digest" state.

So what are the lessons to be learned here?

1. Stress contributes TO weight gain and fights AGAINST weight loss (in many other ways than what I have described here)

2. Practice taking intentional deep breaths throughout your day: Inhale deeply through your nose until your stomach expands and then release it with a long, slow exhale.

Whether it is to lose weight, reduce stress, or to experience more peace in your soul, I hope you will join me in experiencing the many benefits of breathing well!

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