04/05/2022
In this photo almost 20 years ago I remember covering my beautiful baby’s head because I’d let myself believe the teachings that our hair was nappy or didn’t look good if not combed. In this photo I was also wearing a hairstyle myself to make my own hair look more tamed, straight and sociably acceptable. In this photo behind these smiles was a deeply rooted learned form of self hate that too many of us still live with….I’m team do whatever you want with your hair as long as it’s from a healthy place but in this photo, mine was not. Those tiny braids you see here, upon removal ripped out about 75% of my natural hair from my head. I was left with no choice but to cut it all off. And even then I wore extensions over my mini fro until it was long enough for me to feel pretty to wear without them…smh. I’m not ashamed to admit these things now, I’m simply grateful to be able to see the thought process for what it was. Because so many people still can’t. Today I will wear my hair in any style that I please and I support others doing the same, (this is not a bashing of weave) as long as it’s from a healthy place and awareness. But in about 75% of the cases, it’s not.
Trin Setta mommy is so thankful to be about to have evolved enough from such beliefs and to be able to now share an abundance of self love, respect, and divinity with you and your sisters. If I could go back and redo this photographic moment, those beautiful frizzy curls on your head would have been set free to be the absolutely best part of this photo. And my final thought for us all is, to never fix your hair again. For it is not broken. We can style or groom but healing starts in the tongue so never “get my hair fixed” again… Your hair is not broken. It’s purely amazing.
❤️