I’m a paradox: a type A gypsy, a conservative liberal, a gold star rule breaker, and a recovering overachiever.
In 2007, my mother passed away suddenly in a car accident. I tried to approach grief as another course to pass. Just study the modules, take the test, and I could be done with it. I threw myself into a slew of unhealthy relationships that I took on as projects: side hustles to the gig of navigating trauma.
In 2009, I got married. I chose a wonderful man with very little baggage thinking he could carry mine. I moved across the country and less than a year later found myself pregnant.
In 2013, just months after I had my second child, I began struggling with my new identity as a mom. I had prided myself on adventure and change: an unconventional, magical approach to life, and here I was stuck in the monotony of daily living as a wife and mom.
Without realizing it, my husband and kids had become checkmarks on my bucket list, and I found myself thrilled and irritable, bored yet overwhelmed, thankful and disappointed, and itching to move on to what was next.
I hated myself for not being more satisfied with my life. Isn’t this what I’ve always wanted?
Instead of allowing and processing my disappointment, I just started adding more plates to my juggling act.
Swimming in grief? I should get married. Bored already? Let’s have kids. Rough spot in marriage? I should start a business.
Nothing looked like I thought it would, and I wasn’t ok with it. After a year of building Untangled as a creative product business, I decided something had to change. Years of spinning had left me dizzy with overwhelm, grief, and disappointment.
Getting certified as a life coach was the embodied equivalent of an emotional child's pose:
surrender. breathe. be.
Disappointment is a powerful catalyst for change.
Once I surrendered, I awakened to my patterns of self sabotage. I have channeled all the energy that I was using to run away from life into grounding myself in gratitude. I have infused my grief and disappointment with love and profound purpose; scripted my brokenness into a beautiful way of being.
I am now an advocate for diligent, intentional growth and radical self-love. Instead of distracting myself with a do more, get more, have more sprint ethic, I found the unforced rhythm of grace. I’ve built my entire business to help people embrace the truth that living things grow and growing things change.
As a mindset coach and spiritual teacher, I have shifted Untangled from simply a creative outlet to transformational coaching programs for other creative high achievers. Every ambitious go-getter needs to examine the soundtrack that is running their life. I teach people how to pause long enough to recognize their feelings and listen closely enough to expose their thoughts. This Untangling process allows women to identify the patterns, distractions and limiting beliefs that are keeping them stuck and overwhelmed.