05/17/2026
Humans are the most underdeveloped species at birth. 🤗 and no, you cannot "spoil them" by holding them too much. Most cultures do exactly that!! Including at night!
In the first year of life, babies are still deeply connected to their mothers, both emotionally and physically. Their nervous system continues to register their mother’s heartbeat, scent, and warmth as a form of survival, not just comfort. This bond is fundamental for their development, as it provides a sense of safety and security that allows their brain to thrive.
From a developmental psychology perspective, a baby’s sense of attachment is not just about emotional connection—it’s about the survival instinct. During this critical time, babies depend on the sensory cues from their mothers to regulate their own nervous systems. The feeling of being physically close to their mother helps to stabilize their stress response and fosters healthy brain development.
Rushing the process of independence too soon, such as expecting a baby to sleep alone or self-soothe too early, can disrupt this natural process. While some parents may feel the need to encourage independence, especially with sleep training, it’s important to understand the developmental needs of the baby’s nervous system. Pushing independence before a baby is ready can lead to stress, anxiety, and long-term emotional consequences.
Supporting a baby’s need for closeness during the first year helps create a foundation for secure emotional development.
