09/16/2025
When you live with health anxiety, avoidance can feel protective. Skipping the check-up, putting off that phone call, or distracting yourself from a symptom may seem like a way to dodge bad news. But there is a catch. Avoidance doesn’t protect you. It feeds your anxiety. Every time you avoid, you learn, “See? That must have been dangerous.” The fear grows, not because the doctor’s office is dangerous, but because you never give yourself the chance to find out otherwise.
Improvement isn’t about forcing yourself into the scariest situation right away. It’s about retraining your brain through small, consistent experiences that show you your fears are exaggerated and that you can handle uncertainty. Cognitive strategies help you see the distortions in your thinking, like assuming anxiety means danger or believing one bad doctor visit predicts all future visits. Behavioral strategies take it further. By actually facing the situations you avoid, you gain firsthand evidence that your predictions are unreliable.
Think of it like exercising a weak muscle. At first, lifting even a light weight feels uncomfortable. But over time, as you practice, your strength builds. The same is true with tolerating uncertainty around your health. Each step you take toward facing what you avoid, you are teaching yourself that you can handle the anxiety and uncertainty and that your predictions are often wrong.
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