Rachel Willyung LCSW ACSW

10/16/2025

10/16/2025

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is the permission to trust themselves — to listen to that quiet voice inside before the world teaches them to doubt it.

Because that instinct, that gut feeling, is the body’s first language of truth. It whispers before logic catches up, before politeness overrides protection, before fear convinces them to ignore what they already know.

To be clear, this isn’t about giving them a free pass to roll their eyes at chores or refuse every sensible request — it’s about something much deeper. It’s about helping them recognise when something feels wrong, when a boundary is crossed, or when their safety — emotional or physical — is at stake.

And just as importantly, it teaches them to recognise and respect that same “no” in others — to understand that boundaries go both ways, and that real connection is built on mutual consent and care.

When we teach our kids that no is a complete sentence — one that doesn’t require justification or apology — we teach them self-respect. We teach them safety. We teach them sovereignty over their own bodies, boundaries, and hearts.

Let them know they can always revisit, reflect, and reframe later. But in the moment their gut says no — to how they’re being treated, or how someone else is — that’s enough. That’s wisdom speaking.

This is how we raise children who grow into adults that still know how to listen — to their intuition, their limits, and their truth. ❤️

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10/16/2025

When we grow up in childhood trauma, we get through it via magical thinking, hope, and not thinking about a perpetrator's behavior. ⁠
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This crucial survival strategy keeps a child going through the impossible, such as having a narcissistic parent. ⁠
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That strategy was a dream that the abusive person would change and see us, and thinking that things getting safer was just around the corner. ⁠
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As adults, we are often still stuck in similar hopeful thinking, which was a setup from childhood. ⁠
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It takes a lot of re-parenting work for our inner adult to take over and make decisions on behalf of the inner child, who survived by thinking of the potential versus the reality. So it's a battle. ⁠
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But it is very healing for our inner child to see the inner adult take a big risk and get out of something for their benefit.

10/16/2025

Covert narcissists are much more dangerous than the grandiose or overt narcissist.

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10/16/2025

Denice Frohman

10/16/2025

🚫You should NEVER have to teach a fully grown adult what basic respect is.

🚫Feeling like you have to BEG someone to stop yelling at you, stop lying to you, stop messing with your mind/emotions, stop confusing you, stop switching the story every time, etc., is NOT normal.

Narcissists will try and make you feel like you’re asking for way too much when you make these requests.

They might say something along the lines of the following bu****it in order to show you that asking for basic respect is simply asking for too much:
💩It’s your fault you made me angry
💩Oh you want the royal treatment huh?
💩I’m not good enough for you?
💩How could you do this to me!?
💩Nothing ever makes you happy, you’re so miserable
💩You’re being dramatic/overreacting/crazy/stupid
💩I never lied/yelled at you/etc
💩WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT THIS IS JUST MY VOICE (here’s an honourary mention of my late narc mother’s favourite lol 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️ “I’M ITALIAN THIS IS JUST HOW LOUD MY VOICE IS!”
💩You’re so ungrateful
💩What about all the other things I did for you?
💩Remember that time I did (whatever random rare nice thing they’re throwing in vour face at this given moment)?

❌This is all bu****it meant to make you feel guilt, shame, fear, confused, or obligated - because people in these states are easier to control.

If you receive more basic respect from strangers who pass you by on the sidewalk who you don’t even interact with, than your family/significant other/person close to you/whoever, then there is a huge f*king problem here.

And guess what?

The problem is NOT you!!!

The problem is the narcissist who is still a fully grown adult who should know better but refuses to take accountability and never will.

And chances are they treat other people with that basic respect because remember: narcissists don’t abuse every single person they come across. They only target a select few.

🤔They KNOW how to be respectful, just not to YOU, because you’re their target.

10/16/2025