01/15/2025
Your resistance didn’t come out of thin air.
When you freeze up, it’s not an inherent flaw.
They’re coping mechanisms. Learned responses.
They’re your body trying to keep you safe and connected in the best it way knows how, and it’s often an old pattern that could use some updating.
We tend toward shame when we notice the freeze or resistance. We get frustrated when we can’t let go, perform, open up, or just do the thing.
And it doesn’t help.
What can help is getting curious about the freeze, about the deeper resistance.
It’s getting in touch with the part that’s protecting and resisting, and finding out what it’s afraid of.
It’s gently noticing the tension and allowing it; validating & appreciating it.
Then approaching it with compassionate curiosity; what are you afraid of? What pain are you still holding on to?
It’s asking that part gently, “What would you need to feel safe right now?
What do you need to hear?
To feel?
I see you, and you’re safe now.”
There’s often a tender part of the Self hidden away because it wasn’t honored; it wasn’t allowed. It wasn’t felt, processed, soothed, and validated.
But that’s the beauty of adulthood.
We can learn how to give that compassion, tenderness, understanding, and care to the younger parts of our Self that didn’t get them when we needed it.
We can help those parts of the Self mature by being the one who shows up.
You’re here now, and you’re doing it.
And that’s what matters most.
If this is where you are right now - working on navigating stuckness & resistance while connecting more deeply with yourself - and you’re looking for a support in this process, the 6 month Group Program begins this Tuesday, July 16th.
If you're working through this, the Cycle Breakers program begins THIS Wednesday, January 15th.
This is a year long program for those committed and dedicated to changing old patterns. To bringing their patterns to light and slowly and intentionally meeting themselves with more safety, generosity, compassion, and accountability as they begin to break old cycles and patterns of relating to themselves, others and the world. And it's done in small, supportive, heart-centered community.
More info & registration at the link below - 1 spot in each cohort left!
https://theeqschool.co/cycle-breakers
