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09/25/2025

Raw vs. Vegan: Why Nature Knows Best

Let’s get one thing straight: I love plants. I love their colors, their crunch, their unapologetic ability to grow through concrete. But when it comes to fueling your body for real, lasting health, not all plant-based diets are created equal.
So let’s talk about it—Raw vs. Vegan. Because while both sound like they belong in a yoga studio with a side of kombucha, there’s a big difference between eating plants and eating plants in their natural, unprocessed glory.
🥦 What’s the Difference?
- Vegan Diet: No animal products. That means no meat, dairy, eggs, or honey. But it can include processed foods—vegan cookies, faux meats, microwave meals, and enough soy to build a small village.
- Raw Diet: No animal products and no cooking above 118°F. It’s all about fresh fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and sprouted grains—foods that still remember what sunlight feels like.
In short: all raw diets are vegan, but not all vegan diets are raw. And that’s where the magic lies.
🔥 Cooked Is Cute, But Raw Is Revolutionary
Cooking can destroy up to 50% of certain nutrients. Enzymes? Gone. Vitamin C? Toasted. Phytonutrients? Ghosted. When you eat raw, you’re getting food in its most bioavailable, enzyme-rich, life-giving form.
Think of it like this: raw food is alive. It vibrates. It energizes. It doesn’t just fill your stomach—it fuels your cells.
💪 The Raw Advantage
As a coach, I’ve seen raw diets transform bodies and minds. We’re talking:
- Clearer skin
- Improved digestion
- Sustainable weight loss
- Mental clarity
- Reduced inflammation
And let’s not forget the raw glow—that unmistakable radiance that comes from eating foods that haven’t been stripped of their soul.
🍔 But What About Vegan Comfort Foods?
Listen, I get it. Vegan mac and cheese hits different. But if your vegan diet is 80% processed and 20% produce, you’re missing the point. You’re swapping one form of inflammation for another. Just because it’s plant-based doesn’t mean it’s health-based.
A raw diet asks you to slow down, chew mindfully, and reconnect with the earth. It’s not just a diet—it’s a lifestyle. A philosophy. A return to what your body was designed to digest.
🌱 Final Thoughts from Coach Tshombhi
I’m not here to shame your vegan cupcakes. I’m here to invite you into a deeper conversation about vitality. Raw eating isn’t about restriction—it’s about liberation. It’s about trusting that nature got it right the first time.
So if you’re ready to feel lighter, think clearer, and glow harder, consider going raw. Even part-time. Even one meal a day. Your body will thank you—and so will your blender.

By Coach Tshombhi, Health & Fitness Coach

09/25/2025

Not Every Action Deserves a Reaction: A Survival Guide for the Emotionally Intelligent (and the Slightly Petty)

Let’s talk about the art of not clapping back.
I know, I know. Sometimes the group chat is popping off, your cousin just posted something shady on Facebook, and your partner left the peanut butter jar open again like it’s a cry for help. You’re tempted to respond. To react. To unleash a TED Talk, a passive-aggressive emoji, or a full-blown dissertation on why you are, in fact, not the one.
But here’s the truth: not every action deserves a reaction. And not every moment is a battle worth fighting—especially when your peace is on the line.
🎭 The Drama Tax
Every time you react to nonsense, you pay a tax. It’s called your energy. Your time. Your dignity. And let’s be honest, some of us are out here emotionally bankrupt because we keep making withdrawals from the petty account.
You don’t need to respond to every side-eye, every snarky comment, or every unsolicited opinion from someone who still thinks “gaslighting” is a type of stove.
Sometimes silence is the most luxurious clapback. It says, “I saw that. I processed it. And I’ve decided you’re not worth the bandwidth.”
🧠 Pick Your Battles Like You Pick Your Outfits
Strategically. With intention. And preferably not in sweatpants.
Ask yourself:
- Will this matter in five minutes, five days, or five years?
- Am I reacting from ego or responding from wisdom?
- Is this a battle or just a mosquito buzzing near my ear?
If it’s the emotional equivalent of a mosquito, swat it away with grace. Or better yet, let it buzz. You’re too busy building legacy to be derailed by bug-sized drama.
💬 The Power of the Pause
Here’s a radical idea: pause before you react. Take a breath. Sip your tea. Text your therapist. Write a haiku. Do whatever you need to do to interrupt the impulse to go full gladiator.
Because when you pause, you reclaim your power. You shift from reactive to reflective. And you get to choose whether this moment deserves your voice—or just your silence and a well-timed eyebrow raise.
🛡️ Emotional Intelligence Is Your Superpower
Being emotionally intelligent doesn’t mean you’re soft. It means you’re strategic. You know when to speak, when to disengage, and when to hit someone with a “bless your heart” and keep it moving.
You’re not avoiding conflict—you’re curating your peace. You’re not suppressing your feelings—you’re choosing your stage. And sometimes, the best performance is no performance at all.
Final Thought: Be Like Beyoncé
You think Queen Bey responds to every rumor, every tweet, every critique from someone with six followers and a blurry profile pic? No. She drops an album, books a tour, and lets the art speak louder than the noise.
So next time someone tries to bait you into a reaction, channel your inner Beyoncé. Smile. Pivot. And go build something beautiful.
Because not every action deserves a reaction—but every moment deserves your wisdom.

Coach Monique

09/16/2025

💫 Coaching vs. Therapy: Why Your Healing Might Just Need a Hype Woman (or Man)

Welcome to My Purpose Wellness Center, where healing isn’t just a quiet journey—it’s a celebration. Whether you’re sipping wine at The Ultimate Lovers Getaway or joining one of our playful, purpose-driven events, we believe growth should feel good, look good, and be accessible to everyone.
But let’s talk about something people often mix up: coaching vs. therapy. They’re both powerful, but they serve different purposes—and knowing the difference could be the key to unlocking your next breakthrough.

🎯 What Is Coaching (and Why It Might Be Your Secret Weapon)?
Coaching is like having a personal cheerleader, strategist, and accountability partner rolled into one. At My Purpose Wellness Center, coaching is:
- Action-oriented: We help you move from “I wish” to “I did.”
- Future-focused: We’re not digging through your past—we’re building your legacy.
- Empowering: You already have the answers. We help you hear them louder.
- Accessible: Our income-based model means healing isn’t reserved for the elite.
Whether you’re navigating relationships, reclaiming your self-worth, or launching your next big idea, our coaches meet you where you are—with joy, dignity, and a whole lot of purpose.

🧠 What About Therapy?
Therapy is a beautiful, necessary space—especially for those unpacking trauma, mental health challenges, or deep emotional wounds. It’s:
- Past-focused: Therapy often explores childhood, trauma, and patterns.
- Clinically driven: Therapists are licensed professionals trained to diagnose and treat.
- Emotionally intensive: It’s about healing what’s broken before building what’s next.
Think of therapy as emotional surgery. Think of coaching as emotional training camp. Both are valid. Sometimes you need both. And at My Purpose Wellness Center, we honor that.

💖 Why Coaching Works (Especially Here)
At My Purpose Wellness Center, coaching isn’t just a service—it’s a movement. We blend:
- 🎉 Playful experiences like romantic scavenger hunts and themed getaways
- 🫶 Trauma-informed care that centers your dignity and agency
- 🧩 Custom coaching tracks from fitness to faith to sobriety
We’re building a legacy of healing that feels like home. And whether you’re a woman rediscovering her worth, a couple reigniting their spark, or a man learning to love out loud—we’ve got a coach for that.

🌟 Final Thought: Coaching Is for the Living
Therapy helps you survive. Coaching helps you thrive.
So if you’re ready to stop just existing and start living—with intention, joy, and a little bit of sass—My Purpose Wellness Center is your next stop.

Healing doesn’t have to be heavy. Sometimes, it looks like laughter, love, and legacy.

Welcome to My Purpose Wellness Center—a natural, holistic space where transformation begins with intention. We believe that healing is multi-dimensional, and every individual holds the power to create the life they truly want. Our center offers coaching across several vital genres, including relat...

09/16/2025

🗣️ Community Resource Alert — Not a My Purpose Event 🗣️

At My Purpose Wellness Center, we’re always looking for ways to uplift our community—even when we’re not the ones hosting. We recently came across an incredible lineup of outreach events from Fresno Cares that we believe could be deeply beneficial to those we serve.
📣 Please note: These are not My Purpose Wellness events.
We’re simply sharing because we care—and because healing takes a village.
💬 Why it matters:
These events center su***de prevention, mental health awareness, and community connection. If you or someone you love could benefit from education, support, or solidarity, we encourage you to explore and attend.
🗓️ Highlights include:
- Su***de Prevention Conference Sept 12
- Out of the Darkness Walk Sept 27
- OSP Webinar Sept 24
✨ We’ll continue to spotlight resources that align with our mission of dignity, access, and joy—even when we’re not the ones behind the mic or the clipboard.

Join individuals and teams at the Fresno Out of the Darkness Walk on Saturday, September 27, 2025, at Woodward Park in Fresno, CA. ✔️ Check-in begins at 9:00 AM (PDT) ✔️ Walk starts at 10:00 AM (PDT)

09/08/2025

🖤 Community Spotlight: Black Self-Care Training – Happening Tomorrow! 🖤
This isn’t a My Purpose Wellness Center event—but it is a beautiful reflection of the healing we believe in.
While preparing for our fall programming, we came across a powerful opportunity for Black healing and wellness right here in Fresno. The Black Self-Care training, happening tomorrow, September 8th, is a trauma-informed gathering led by Dr. Karen Crozier and Dr. Sheila Thomas. It offers space to explore the impacts of race, trauma, and mental health through writing, storytelling, and mindfulness.
🗓️ Date: Monday, September 8, 2025
🕘 Time: 9:00 AM – 1:00 PM
📍 Location: Brain Wise Solutions, 5150 N. Sixth St., Suite #156, Fresno, CA 93710
We know it’s last minute—but we felt moved to share. Because when healing is happening in our community, we want you to know about it. This is not a My Purpose event, but it’s absolutely a moment worth showing up for.
📞 To register, call Dr. Karen Crozier at 559-931-1953
Let’s keep showing up for each other. When we move together, healing happens faster—and deeper.

09/05/2025

🧠 What Trauma Looks Like: A Human Guide to a Scientific Reality

Trauma isn’t just a moment—it’s a lasting imprint on the body and brain. It’s not defined by the event itself, but by how the nervous system responds to it. And while trauma is deeply personal, its effects often follow recognizable patterns rooted in neuroscience and psychology.

Here’s what trauma can look like—not in theory, but in real life:

🔁 1. Hypervigilance
The brain’s alarm system (the amygdala) becomes overactive. You might feel constantly “on edge,” scanning for danger even in safe environments. Loud noises, sudden movements, or ambiguous facial expressions can trigger intense reactions.

In real life:** You sit with your back to the wall. You rehearse conversations before they happen. You feel exhausted from being “alert” all the time.

🧊 2. Emotional Numbing
Trauma can cause the brain to shut down emotional processing to protect itself. This leads to detachment—not just from pain, but from joy, love, and connection.

**In real life:** You say “I’m fine” but feel nothing. You struggle to cry, laugh, or feel excitement. You go through the motions but feel disconnected from your own life.

⏳ 3. Flashbacks and Time Distortion
Trauma memories aren’t stored like regular memories. They’re fragmented, sensory-heavy, and often involuntarily triggered. The body reacts as if the event is happening again.

**In real life:** A smell, sound, or phrase sends you spiraling. You lose track of time. You feel “crazy” for reacting to something no one else noticed.

🧠 4. Cognitive Fog
Chronic stress from trauma impacts the prefrontal cortex—responsible for decision-making, focus, and memory. You may feel mentally slow, forgetful, or indecisive.

**In real life:** You reread the same sentence five times. You forget appointments. You feel overwhelmed by simple tasks and blame yourself for being “lazy.”

💥 5. Startle Response
The body becomes conditioned to react quickly to perceived threats. Even neutral stimuli can provoke a fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response.

**In real life:** You flinch when someone touches you unexpectedly. You jump at loud sounds. You feel embarrassed by how reactive you are.

🧩 6. Fragmented Identity
Trauma survivors often adapt by compartmentalizing. You become different versions of yourself depending on the environment—masking vulnerability to stay safe.

**In real life:** You’re the “strong one” at work, the “quiet one” at home, and the “funny one” with friends. You wonder which version is the real you.

🛠️ Why This Matters
Understanding trauma as a biological and psychological response—not a personal failure—is the first step toward healing. It’s not about what’s wrong with you. It’s about what happened to you—and how your body learned to survive.

At My Purpose Wellness Center, our trauma-informed coaches are trained to recognize these patterns and support healing with compassion, science, and dignity. Whether you're navigating childhood wounds, systemic stress, or life-altering events, you're not alone—and you're not broken.

📲 Learn more or connect with a trauma coach at [mpwellnesscenter.org](http://mpwellnesscenter.org)