10/10/2025
At some point in life, many of us face the decision to downsize—whether it's moving to a smaller home, transitioning to a senior living community, or simply clearing out years of accumulated belongings. While the process can feel overwhelming, it can also be deeply empowering. Downsizing isn't just about letting go—it's about making room for what truly matters.
Recently, I had the opportunity to sit down with Resident Ellen Roberts to talk about her experience downsizing and moving into Village at the Harbor with her partner Judy Lingerfelt.
Ellen, would you share a few of the reasons you and Judy made the decision to move into assisted living?
“After a scary experience while off-island for a medical procedure, we were concerned that Judy’s health issues were putting her physically at risk in our house. As her caregiver, I knew that if she fell, she could really get hurt, and I was not able to help her get up without calling EMS. Although I could provide the other care she needed, it seemed smart to be in a place where help is readily available in a crisis.
Maintaining our home had become quite expensive because we could not do maintenance, cleaning, and yard work ourselves. Even though we considered the cost of living at the Village quite expensive, we added up what it was really costing us to live in our house and realized it was not that different. We realized that financially once we sold the house, we would be able to handle the costs for quite a long time.
Another thing that helped us decide was that the Village allows pets, so we were able to bring them with us.”
Can you talk about your experience downsizing and moving into a Village apartment?
When we really needed to move, it happened quickly. This meant that we did not have time to go through anything much before moving. We worked with the apartment floor plan, choosing furniture and the basic things we would need within a week. The downsizing part of the situation took us three months. It helped a great deal not to be living in the house while we were going through things. That way we could move things around, sorting things in 3 categories - take to the Village, sell, and donate/give away - without worrying about using the rooms in the usual way. I used a spiral notebook with lists by room to keep track of what was going on.
Village at the Harbor: Making Space for What Matters CONTINUED
We asked around and hired local moving person to bring things to the new apartment. We also engaged a real estate agent to help us with preparing a house for sale. Even though we did not list the house for quite a while, she was extremely helpful.
When we let friends know what we were doing, we were greatly surprised and blessed to have a lot of them offer their help. Since some of the work was physically difficult for us, others were able to move heavy things around, carry things out to the garage, load things into vehicles, and deliver them where they needed to go.
I listed and sold some furniture and other items on local Facebook sites. In addition, it was very helpful to list things to give away on the site called “Buy Nothing Friday Harbor.” We met many interesting and lovely people as they came over to purchase things or get things we didn’t need.
Even though this sounds great, it was very stressful. It’s hard to look at things that you have valued and enjoyed for decades, knowing that they need to be rehomed. Seeing that other people were delighted to have them helped quite a bit. Toward the end of the process, when we were feeling really stressed, we decided to rent a storage unit and move some things there that we weren’t ready to go through yet.
The staff at the Village helped make this move much easier. Because we didn’t have boxes and boxes of things, we were able to get items put in place within a week. This reduced our stress a lot.”
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Ellen is a vibrant member of our Village community and we are so glad she and Judy took the ‘leap’ to move-in before they really needed the extra assistance and care. As Judy’s health declined, it was seamless for our care team to step in and help Ellen with Judy’s care needs. Ellen and Judy’s story is common in our community, and I asked her to share it in hopes of encouraging others to consider the benefits of pro-actively downsizing. Not only do you have less space to manage, but the time saved on grocery shopping, meal prep, housekeeping, and laundry, free up time for you to do the things that really matter to you in this season of life.
If you are curious about what assisted living looks like, set up an appointment to visit us today! I’d be happy to give you a tour and introduce you to our community. Take it from Ellen, who said, “My best advice to everyone is: start now.”
Tina Levasheff, Executive Director
Photos: Ellen and Judy