A Better Way Recovery, LLC

08/22/2025

Life is simple. It's humans who complicate everything.

08/14/2025

Our Aftercare participants will soon be graduating. Please join us in wishing them well. They've worked very hard to complete 12 months of rehab plus continued care.

07/31/2025

Staff team building day! Water slides, sun shine, and relaxation with the ladies who walk this journey with me. Grateful for these wonderful ladies!

07/29/2025

Living life on life's terms isn't always easy. Adulting sucks sometimes, but the solution to those problems is acceptance. It's simple but it isn't always easy. When we are disturbed, it is because some person, place, thing, or situation is beyond our control. If we don't get into acceptance, we will be in a state of unrest and unhappiness until we do.

"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some
person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life—unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until
I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes."

AA Big Book, 4th ed., pg 417

06/26/2025

06/23/2025

She Recovers Every Day

Monday
Jun 23

The Juggle Is Real

I try not to talk about struggle in my life these days, because I recognize that there are women and other individuals around me who truly are struggling—in their lives and for their lives. Many are struggling without much hope or much help. I do know what struggle is, and I struggled mightily during my periods of addiction and mental illness, domestic abuse, and self-induced harm. I have struggled with severe workaholism and cancer and self-doubt. I am exceedingly grateful that today I have the privilege of having to juggle through my life, rather than struggle through it. For the most part, the decisions I have to make and the activities that I engage in for my recovery and everything else are things that I have clear choices about, even though sometimes the choices feel overwhelming. I often find myself with too many balls in the air. Can you relate? When I start to feel like life is a struggle, I usually just need to eliminate a few balls, go back to basics, and return to my recovery practices. Sometimes I even have to let a few balls drop and roll away.

Life is a balancing act, a daily juggle of assessing what's important, doing it, and letting go of the less important things.

06/06/2025

Oftentimes, people who are addicted to drugs or alcohol face stigma that prevent them from seeking help. For women, particularly mothers, there are other barriers to getting proper treatment, such as

Child care responsibilities
Trauma and anxiety
Lower wages/less income
Fear of losing custody of children
Lack of access to resources
Feeling unworthy of receiving help

Society says women are supposed to be small—both in stature and personality— selfless and caring; they're supposed to be good friends and mothers whose energy is spent doting on others.

There are a million messages and more, each describing what a woman is supposed to be—each more irrational than the last—and each making it that much harder to admit to needing help.

Source: https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/unique-challenges-of-women-and-addiction

You are worthy of recovery. You can do the hard things. It's ok not to be perfect.

Women are addicted to alcohol and other drugs at nearly the same rate as men, but the stigma attached to addiction for women is far greater.

06/04/2025

Annual GARR Safety Summit for continued education. Best Practices and updates in the recovery residences business.

05/30/2025

Upcoming recovery event

04/24/2025

April 24, 2025
Twelve steps of life
Page 118

"Through abstinence and through working the Twelve Steps of Narcotics Anonymous, our lives have become useful."

Basic Text, p. 8

Before coming to Narcotics Anonymous, our lives were centered around using. For the most part, we had very little energy left over for jobs, relationships, or other activities. We served only our addiction.

The Twelve Steps of Narcotics Anonymous provide a simple way to turn our lives around. We start by staying clean, a day at a time. When our energy is no longer channeled into our addiction, we find that we have the energy to pursue other interests. As we grow in recovery, we become able to sustain healthy relationships. We become trustworthy employees. Hobbies and recreation seem more inviting. Through participation in Narcotics Anonymous, we help others.

Narcotics Anonymous does not promise us that we will find good jobs, loving relationships, or a fulfilling life. But when we work the Twelve Steps to the best of our ability, we find that we can become the type of people who are capable of finding employment, sustaining loving relationships, and helping others. We stop serving our disease, and begin serving God and others. The Twelve Steps are the key to transforming our lives.

Just for Today: I will have the wisdom to use the Twelve Steps in my life, and the courage to grow in my recovery. I will practice my program to become a responsible, productive member of society.

04/18/2025

Getting sober is hard! How frustrating is it to realize you rely upon something to function? Staying sober and living a life of recovery is life-changing. Once you get past that difficult part, the rest is easy to do when you have the right tools.

04/14/2025

The Language of Letting Go

Monday
Apr 14

Perfectionism

Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues.

Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in a guilty and anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is equally destructive; it makes others feel ashamed and may interfere with their growth.

People are human and vulnerable, and that is wonderful. We can accept and cherish that idea. Expecting others to be perfect puts us in that codependent state of moral superiority. Expecting ourselves to be perfect makes us feel rigid and inferior.

We can let go of both ideas.

We do not need to go to the other extreme; tolerating anything people throw our way. We can still expect appropriate, responsible behavior from ourselves. But most of us can afford to loosen up a bit. And when we stop expecting others to be perfect, we may discover that they're doing much better than we thought. When we stop expecting ourselves to be perfect, we'll discover the beauty in ourselves.

Today, I will practice tolerance, acceptance, and love of others as they are, and myself as I am. I will strive for that balance between expecting too much and expecting too little from others and myself.