09/30/2025
Trust Your Body, Trust Your Baby:
The Fourth Trimester
We usually hear about the three trimesters of pregnancy, but thereâs one more that often gets overlooked:
The Fourth Trimester
Also know as the first 12 weeks after birth. This season is big. Itâs raw. It is supposed to be that way.
Your Baby:
Your baby just spent approximately nine months in the womb where everything was warm, dark, and safe. The outside world feels huge and overwhelming at first. Thatâs why your baby wants to be close, to feed often, to be held, to sleep on your chest. These arenât âbad habits.â They are survival instincts and ways your baby feels secure. Remember, that you can NOT spoil a newborn! These are needs that your baby and body were designed to do during this time. Their brain is growing rapidly, their digestive system is still maturing, and their sleep cycles are short and scattered. They rely on frequent feeding and closeness to regulate temperature, heart rate, and stress levels.
Your Body:
Your body is healing from pregnancy and birth. Your hormones are shifting dramatically. Youâre learning your babyâs unique cues, while also learning who YOU are in this new season of parenthood. When a baby is born, a whole new faucet to the motherâs identity is also born. You are shifting from pregnancy to lactation, your uterus is contracting back to size, your body is healing from birth, and your milk supply is regulating. Emotionally, your brain is also rewiring to heighten bonding and responsiveness to your baby. Itâs normal to feel tender, tired, and unsure.
Ways you can navigate this new season:
â˘Slow down
â˘Accept help when itâs offered
â˘Set realistic goals for yourself, and strip off false standards of motherhood
â˘Rest when you can
â˘Remember that feeding often, being needed constantly, less sleep, and having ups and downs are all a part of this season. It may often feel like you are not doing enough, but remind yourself you just created life and are now cultivating it. You are powerful and designed for this!
How a Postpartum Doula Can Help:
â˘Support you with feeding (breast or bottle)
â˘Help you understand babyâs cues and rhythms
â˘Offer hands-on newborn care so you can rest
â˘Provide emotional support
â˘Assist with meals, light chores, or sibling care
â˘Support you in reminding you that what you and your baby are experiencing is normal and a season
⨠Trust your baby: Theyâre adjusting to life outside the womb, and they know what they need.
⨠Trust your body: Itâs healing, adapting, and providing for your baby.
The fourth trimester isnât about âgetting back to normal.â Itâs about creating YOUR new normal together. The fourth trimester is not a test to pass, or a moment in time where you are âsupposed to have it all togetherâ. Itâs a season to be lived through with lots of grace. One day, youâll look back and see how far both you and your baby have come!
Mental Health Disclaimer:
Postpartum can feel overwhelming and sometimes itâs more than just the âbaby blues.â If youâre experiencing persistent sadness, anxiety, scary thoughts, or just donât feel like yourself, you are not alone and you deserve help. Here are some helpful resources:
â˘Postpartum Support International (PSI): 1-800-944-4773 (calls & texts)
â˘National Maternal Mental Health Hotline (U.S.): 1-833-852-6262
â˘988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, U.S.)
đIf youâd like an additional support during this season of your life, I would love to be a part of it! Send me a message or visit me online! Cant wait to hear from you!
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