11/21/2025
Healing often means grieving who you had to be...the version of you that learned to stay small, stay quiet, stay alert, stay pleasing, stay invisible…the version that carried the weight of survival on their shoulders.
That self wasn’t weak. They were wise. They were resourceful. They kept you alive. But healing invites a new chapter. A version of you who no longer needs those same survival strategies. A version who gets to grow, rest, expand, and choose. A version who is safe enough to exist without armor.
And that transition, between who you were forced to become and who you’re finally allowed to become, is sacred, uncomfortable, disorienting, and profoundly human.
As therapists, our job isn’t to rush clients through this “in-between,” or push them into a new identity before they’re ready. Our job is to hold space for the unfolding. To normalize the confusion. To witness the shifts. To honor the grief and the emergence. Because stepping into who you are outside of the trauma isn’t instant. It’s slow, nonlinear, and deeply embodied. It’s the process of gathering the fragmented parts of the self and weaving them back into someone whole, grounded in their values, and real.
To every client walking through that in-between space:
You’re not lost.
You’re becoming.