Alison Bulman, Psychotherapist

Alison Bulman, Psychotherapist Helping high-achieving couples & individuals break toxic patterns, deepen intimacy & communicate mindfully. Featured therapist, author, speaker. Based in NY.

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Groundbreaking insights into empathy, loneliness, and artificial intelligence.
07/14/2025

Groundbreaking insights into empathy, loneliness, and artificial intelligence.

The discomfort of loneliness shapes us in ways we don’t recognize—and we may not like what we become without it.

The proof is in the gratitudes…https://www.facebook.com/share/1B7vsnVPNt/?mibextid=wwXIfr
07/11/2025

The proof is in the gratitudes…
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Gratitude, far from being a sentimental notion, has emerged as a scientifically supported force capable of transforming the human brain and improving overall mental health. Neuroscientific studies have shown that regularly practicing gratitude activates brain regions associated with moral cognition, emotional regulation, and reward, particularly the medial prefrontal cortex and anterior cingulate cortex (Zahn et al., 2009). Notably, Dr. Alex Korb, in his book The Upward Spiral, describes how gratitude stimulates the release of dopamine and serotonin—two neurotransmitters vital for mood stabilization and happiness—making it a powerful natural antidepressant. A growing body of evidence confirms that this effect is not fleeting: a study by the University of California, Berkeley, led by Joel Wong and Joshua Brown (2017), found that individuals who wrote gratitude letters showed significantly better mental health outcomes even 12 weeks after the exercise, regardless of whether the letters were sent. In parallel, Emmons and McCullough (2003) demonstrated that individuals who kept a gratitude journal for just 10 weeks reported increased optimism, better sleep, and more physical activity. Furthermore, gratitude has been shown to enhance the neural modulation of the prefrontal cortex, which reduces symptoms of depression and anxiety by strengthening pathways that suppress negative emotions. According to McCraty & Childre (2004), gratitude also reduces cortisol levels—the primary stress hormone—improving cardiovascular health and emotional resilience. At the structural level, researchers like Zahn et al. (2014) have found that individuals who frequently feel gratitude show increased gray matter volume in the right inferior temporal gyrus, which plays a key role in interpreting social signals and emotional meaning. As UCLA’s Mindfulness Awareness Research Center puts it, “Gratitude changes the neural structures of the brain,” reshaping how we perceive and engage with the world. Ultimately, gratitude doesn't just feel good—it rewires the brain toward greater emotional intelligence, social connection, and resilience, offering a neuropsychological foundation for a healthier and more fulfilling life.

Warning to Couples: Important, mindful conversations are needed regularly on this topic: “The Mother Load,” a very commo...
07/10/2025

Warning to Couples: Important, mindful conversations are needed regularly on this topic: “The Mother Load,” a very common plight so many face …
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Many women who initiate divorce tell me their spouse was more like an unreliable assistant than a true partner, writes psychotherapist Oona Metz. Eventually, after years of unproductive conversations, the imbalance tipped so far that the marriage fell over.

When searching for love, it can sometimes feel like we are facing endless obstacles. If you’re currently feeling stuck o...
07/08/2025

When searching for love, it can sometimes feel like we are facing endless obstacles. If you’re currently feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this post is for you. It’s a gentle reminder that love is not just a dream; it can become a reality when we open our hearts and believe in our worthiness.

When searching for love, it can sometimes feel like we are facing endless obstacles. If you’re currently feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this post is for you. It’s a gentle reminder that love is not just a dream; it can become a reality when we open our hearts and believe in our worthiness.Over th...

Getting real is a turn-on. Explore why being emotionally available is the new sexy in relationships. Dive into the full ...
06/05/2025

Getting real is a turn-on. Explore why being emotionally available is the new sexy in relationships. Dive into the full blog here: https://wix.to/ObFNgn7

The biggest love mistake I made? Hiding parts of myself to be more “likable.”But real love—lasting, soul-deep love—doesn...
05/22/2025

The biggest love mistake I made? Hiding parts of myself to be more “likable.”

But real love—lasting, soul-deep love—doesn’t come from performing. It comes from revealing.

In my upcoming book, a self-help memoir for couples and singles, I share how my healing began when I dropped the masks—of perfection, people-pleasing, pretending. That’s when connection got real.

If you’re tired of editing yourself to fit into someone else’s version of lovable, hear this: You don’t need to be more—just more you.

That’s the version love has been waiting for.

Vulnerability is sometimes misunderstood as a sign of weakness. In reality, it's about expressing emotional openness and...
05/20/2025

Vulnerability is sometimes misunderstood as a sign of weakness. In reality, it's about expressing emotional openness and courage. Understanding what vulnerability looks like in a business context is essential….

In today's competitive business world, the race for success often sacrifices genuine connections. Many professionals fear showing vulnerability, fearing it might be perceived as a weakness. Yet, being vulnerable is vital for establishing deeper, more authentic business relationships. By allowing our...

05/19/2025
A common mistake couples make is thinking they must have major problems to need couples therapy. Most couples wait up to...
05/17/2025

A common mistake couples make is thinking they must have major problems to need couples therapy.

Most couples wait up to six years into their struggles before seeking help.

But counseling before even getting married can set you up for success and equip you with communication skills to navigate anything life deals you along the way.

Taking care of your relationship is as important as tending to your health.

I call pre-marital counseling "preventive care."

It's essential if you're getting ready to tie the knot. With wedding season upon us, read why....

In today’s fast-paced world, relationships face numerous pressures. Preparing for marriage—that central commitment of life—is crucial. Just as we attend regular medical check-ups to protect our health, couples should prioritize pre-marital counseling. This proactive step not only addresses exi...

Exciting news! I recently shared my secrets on couples communication at Cornell University's Virtual Spring Mixer. Disco...
05/13/2025

Exciting news! I recently shared my secrets on couples communication at Cornell University's Virtual Spring Mixer. Discover invaluable tips to enhance your relationship! Watch the full talk here: https://wix.to/QHzsaSU

Recently, I had the incredible opportunity to share my insights on couples communication during a talk at Cornell University. As a relationship expert, I’ve dedicated years to understanding the dynamics of romantic interactions. This experience was special. It allowed me to connect with a diverse ...

“Election Nerves? How 4 Mental Health Pros Will Cope on Election NightPizza, exercise, meditation and family time are a ...
11/05/2024

“Election Nerves? How 4 Mental Health Pros Will Cope on Election Night
Pizza, exercise, meditation and family time are a few of their best practices…”

Pizza, exercise, meditation and family time are a few of their best practices

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