Kristina J. Chomick, LMFT, Therapy, Supervision & Consulting Services

Kristina J. Chomick, LMFT, Therapy, Supervision & Consulting Services I provide individual, family and couples therapy in a supportive and collaborative environment that facilitates and encourages strength and growth.

I provide individual, family and couples therapy in a supportive and collaborative environment that facilitates and encourages strength and growth. **currently only providing teletherapy**

Just a little reminder to give yourself some grace right now and that your nervous system is in overdrive because the wo...
04/16/2026

Just a little reminder to give yourself some grace right now and that your nervous system is in overdrive because the world is complete chaos and your brain and heart cannot process all of the horrible information being thrown at you as quickly as it is coming.

Take some breaths.

Take a break from socials and the news.

Get outside and into nature when you can.

Exercise and close your stress cycles.

Do things that you love and fill your cup.

And most importantly - CONNECT WITH PEOPLE! We all need human connection right now to remind ourselves that we are also humans living through this together.

Happy tax week to all those who celebrate!Who do I have to talk to to make this happen?
04/13/2026

Happy tax week to all those who celebrate!

Who do I have to talk to to make this happen?

Grief is a funny thing. After I lost Bronx in the fall, weekend mornings were tough. The way I liked to start my Saturda...
04/12/2026

Grief is a funny thing. After I lost Bronx in the fall, weekend mornings were tough. The way I liked to start my Saturdays and Sundays whenever possible was to get cozy on the couch with my coffee, a book, some John Coltrane music, and my best girl snuggled right up to me. When Bronx was gone, the magic was lost and it just didn’t feel the same. Somehow Sadie just fell right into this routine with me so quickly and easily, and I am loving every snuggly second of it. But I can feel both, right? I can both love that Sadie has embraced these lazy weekend starts with me, and I can miss my first girl too. I can feel the love and joy with Sadie and miss that piece of my heart that will forever be with Bronxie-girl. The both/and. The waves of grief. The wild ride that is being human. The extra wild ride that is being a therapist that not only analyzes everyone else but yourself too 🙃. Well now back to my coffee, reading, and snuggles. Enjoy your Sunday everyone! I hope they give you exactly what you need to start your week 🤍.

This morning I sat on my couch with my coffee and went to grab my laptop to get some notes and work done before I head ...
04/08/2026

This morning I sat on my couch with my coffee and went to grab my laptop to get some notes and work done before I head into the office. Someone else decided that she wanted to be on top of my lap. Sometimes our furry friends are the best reminders to slow down a bit more and enjoy the quiet moments we are gifted. So instead I’m enjoying the quiet with her, and of course, my coffee. ☕️ Thank you Sadie girl 🤍

You can't have all the answers, so please don't expect yourself to!We are humans too and have so many of the same human ...
04/06/2026

You can't have all the answers, so please don't expect yourself to!

We are humans too and have so many of the same human questions as our clients. The best thing we can do for them is normalize their feelings and sit with them in their grief, sadness, and fear. Human connection is what we all need right now.

Why did millennials become a whole generation of people with imposter syndrome?We survived 90s culture when wearing the ...
04/02/2026

Why did millennials become a whole generation of people with imposter syndrome?

We survived 90s culture when wearing the “wrong” band tee could get you labeled a "poser" and liking anything too mainstream was basically a one way ticket to loserville. Gatekeeping was a hobby and we were constantly on edge waiting for whatever would make us "uncool". Authenticity was policed by our peers. Cue the lifelong anxiety, amirite?

So yeah… it actually makes sense that so many of us have imposter syndrome now.

We learned early that just liking something wasn’t enough we had to prove we earned it. That we knew enough. Smart enough. Real enough. And, it turns out being called a poser at 14 sticks with your nervous system longer than we realized.

Now that imposter syndrome shows up in our work, how we show up in our friend groups, how we show up with our hobbies, and how we show up as parents. Did the book count if we didn't log it on Goodreads? Did the workout count if we didn't track it on our apple watch? Did the trip count if all your followers didn't like it on IG?

Maybe healing is realizing you don’t have to audition for your own interests anymore and it doesn't matter how much of anything you are. As Dr. Suess says, "There is no one alive who is you-er than you" and you don't have to prove how much of anything you are to anyone else. You were never a poser just a kid figuring out what fit and the same goes for adult you too!

Do you struggle with feedback from others? Have you ever reflected on where that struggle started?
03/30/2026

Do you struggle with feedback from others?

Have you ever reflected on where that struggle started?

Creating chaos in a relationship doesn’t reignite passion.It erodes stability.Drama isn’t depth.Intensity isn’t intimacy...
03/26/2026

Creating chaos in a relationship doesn’t reignite passion.
It erodes stability.

Drama isn’t depth.
Intensity isn’t intimacy.
Unpredictability isn’t chemistry.

So many times people talk about how they LOVED how intense the beginning of their relationship was and how they miss that time. What they don't realize is that it is impossible for any two people to maintain that intensity long term without creating more chaos so they create the chaos seeking the intensity of that feeling not realizing they are hurting themselves and their relationship in doing so.

Sometimes we mistake emotional spikes for connection. We create the big fights, the dramatic reconciliations, the rollercoaster highs and lows so we can feel the intensity. It can feel alive. Charged. Magnetic. But THEN it feels so unstable too and we question the relationship as well.

But real passion doesn’t require instability.

When there’s constant chaos, the nervous system shifts into protection mode. Hypervigilance replaces safety. Reactivity replaces vulnerability. And over time, security (the very thing that allows desire and closeness to grow) starts to disappear.

Healthy relationships aren’t boring because they’re stable.
They’re sustainable because they’re secure.

Safety is what allows play.
Consistency is what allows depth.
Trust is what allows passion to breathe.

If it only feels intense when it feels unsafe, that’s not romance, that’s a stress response and you are seeking chaos not love.

Choose the kind of love that feels steady enough to build on and the person you can be with without creating the chaos. Choose the person you can sit with and read a book, not the one you need to fight with in order to feel love.

Getting out of an unhealthy relationship can feel like putting glasses on for the first time.At first, everything is dis...
03/23/2026

Getting out of an unhealthy relationship can feel like putting glasses on for the first time.

At first, everything is disorienting.
Too sharp.
Too clear.
Almost overwhelming and distorted.

Then all of a sudden, you start to see the patterns you normalized.
The comments you minimized.
The ways you shrank.
The ways you overextended.
The colors become clearer and the red flags you painted beige do too.

And there’s grief in that clarity and you get the urge to get rid of it, to take the glasses off and go back to the muddiness of what you had before.

There is also a lot of self-blame and self-anger. Because it’s not just, “Oh wow, I can see now.” It’s also, “How did I not see this before?”

But that’s the thing about blurry vision, you don’t know it’s blurry when it’s all you’ve ever known. You only know it was blurry once you see with clarity. This is the foundation of the old saying of hindsight is always 20/20.

Sometimes love adjusts your focus slowly.
Sometimes survival does.
Sometimes hope does.
And, sometimes pain and hurt does too.

And when you finally step out, when the fog lifts, when the prescription changes you realize clarity isn’t cruelty. It’s freedom. The pain of the loss begins to subside and you realize WHY seeing clearly is good and the sharpness is healing.

You’re not foolish for what you couldn’t see.
You were doing the best you could with the lens you had.

And now?
You get to choose relationships where you don’t have to squint.

Sadie decided to get her self care in today at 💛
03/20/2026

Sadie decided to get her self care in today at 💛

Not sure how I feel about my new boss micromanaging my Friday to do list writing like this 🙃.
03/20/2026

Not sure how I feel about my new boss micromanaging my Friday to do list writing like this 🙃.

What are you signals that you have stopped taking care of yourself?Sometimes it is the small things. It is not brushing ...
03/19/2026

What are you signals that you have stopped taking care of yourself?

Sometimes it is the small things. It is not brushing your teeth as long as you should, or shortening your sleep routine. Sometimes its the bigger things like not exercising at all, or diving into junk food instead of balanced meals. It can be having worse boundaries with work, or not doing the things that you enjoy like reading or other hobbies.

We all have our own signals but we often do not know what they are.

Spend some time today reflecting on what YOUR signals are and ask yourself how you will know when they show up and make a plan for what to do when it happens.

Self care in this chaotic world is SO important!

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