12/09/2025
Something that has been heavy on my heart lately is this, How do we hold space for the parts of humanity we would rather banish to the shadows?
Not just the inconvenient.
Not just the unkind.
But the unthinkable.
The pe*****le.
The murderer.
The ra**st.
The ones whose actions rupture the soul of a family, a community, a child.
The ones whose ripple of harm seems unforgivable.
And yet, if we believe in healing, if we believe in Source, if we believe that all things are energy, then we must also believe that these beings carry wounds that were never tended, trauma that fermented into harm, distortions that became their actions.
Forgiveness does not mean excusing, condoning, or allowing.
Forgiveness does not welcome someone back into your life.
Forgiveness does not say, “What you did was fine.”
Forgiveness is energetic sovereignty.
It is reclaiming the power that was taken.
It is saying,
“You will not live inside my body any longer. I release you from my field.”
This is the work I am so grateful to have been trained for.
Since 2017 I have been learning, unraveling, expanding, understanding the way of the shaman, the way of the healer, and how to walk between the worlds without losing my center.
And it is this path that taught me something essential
We cannot only love the lovable.
We must learn how to love what is difficult, even when we choose not to stay near it.
Loving does not mean engaging.
Loving does not mean remaining.
Loving means we choose not to become the very darkness we oppose.
Working with “difficult people,” or with those whose choices are harmful or self destructive, is not new in the healing arts.
In my years as a nurse I saw it daily
• The COPD patient who still smoked
• The diabetic patient eating boxes of sugar
• The heart failure patient insisting salt “doesn’t count”
And yet my job, my calling, was still to hold space for them in the capacity I could.
Not to fix.
Not to judge.
Not to decide their worthiness.
But to offer what healing I was able to offer, knowing that they alone must choose the rest.
This is no different in spiritual healing.
Humanity is a spectrum.
We are all walking bundles of wounds, choices, ancestry, and consciousness.
Some are still asleep inside their trauma.
Some are trapped inside the density of unhealed lineage.
Some have never met their own soul.
And some cause harm because their spirit is so collapsed they cannot feel the humanity of others.
But here is the truth healers must remember
We cannot heal everyone!!
We are not meant to.
But we are meant to hold a vibration that remembers their soul even when we condemn their actions. Because when we can see the wound underneath the wound.
When we can see the distortion underneath the behavior.
When we can see the lost child beneath the monstrous act.
We free ourselves from carrying that pain.
This does not remove justice.
This does not erase consequences.
This does not ask us to befriend harm.
But it does call us to release the poison of hatred so it does not live inside our own hearts.
Forgiveness is for the healer.
Grace is for the soul.
Boundaries are for the human.
And somehow in the mystery of Spirit,
there is room for all three.
This earthly realm is messy.
Sacred and brutal.
Humanity and divinity woven together in ways that break us open and invite us to rise.
But if we are to walk the healer’s path, if we are to embody the teachings we’ve been entrusted with, then we must learn to love what is terrible without letting it consume us.
This is the medicine.
This is the work.
This is the way.
AHO