Levang Inventory of Family Experiences - LIFE

Levang Inventory of Family Experiences - LIFE LIFE is an on-line assessment tool that allows you to understand how your family of origin and earl

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Why ideal parent or ideal partner? There are no ideals, correct?

In Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP) therapy the concept of an "ideal" relationship is used as an antidote to satisfy unmet childhood needs. We are all shaped by the interactions we experience in our early development. For example, when an infant is hungry the mother meets that need for nurturance by offering her breast for sustenance. This is an "ideal" as the hunger is satisfied. Children are fragile and vulnerable. Parents must respond to the need for safety by providing ideal protection. The more the child's internal needs are met, the more satisfied and fulfilled the child becomes.

Conversely, the parent who does not meet the needs of the child, the more unhappy that child becomes. In this type of interaction, the child learns that, “My needs are too much. Others cannot be trusted. I'm all alone in the world.”

In Matthew 5:48 Jesus says, “Be ye perfect as your Father in heaven is perfect.” Some religious scholars interpret this to mean “ideal completeness of our being.” The parallel in PBSP therapy is that through roleplaying we can experience the completeness of our soul. For example, an individual with unmet attachment issues can experience an ideal parent who “would have truly wanted them.” The ideal parent role player, gives the person an experience of having an unmet need met.
The ideal communication cards gives words to address what internal needs you might have needed satisfied.

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