Counseling with Kelli

04/01/2025

Therapist reacts-squats for regulation?! with . Nicole LePera Came across this and wanted to share. Giving it a try for my own regulation/selfcare. Disclaimer: I am not telling you to do squats.. not a personal trainer.. do what is right for your body and consult a doctor or personal trainer as needed.

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03/30/2025

This is my understanding of the love addiction love avoidance dance based off Pia Melody’s work on this topic. Her book Facing Love Addiction is a great read that expands on this dance as well as the set up for love addiction/love avoidance.

03/26/2025

Secure attachment can grow when a child sees that their parent enjoys them. Take time to enjoy your kids today.

03/25/2025

These are a few of my personal favorite therapy/self help books related to relationships.

03/24/2025

Remember you can restart your day at any point. A whole day does not need to be considered bad because moments were bad. Take a restart with me.

03/23/2025

What happens when an anxious attached person gets in relationship with an avoidant attached person?! This is my understanding of this relationship dynamic based on my experiences and research. Some of my research is based in attachment theory. Attachment theory was originally developed by John Bowlby and later Mary Ainsworth added to his work. I believe Pia Melody also contributed to attachment theory in many ways such as by talking about love addiction/love avoidance in her book Facing Love Addiction.

03/21/2025

Honest moment with a therapists who is also a mom…

03/20/2025

More on avoidant attachment.. Avoidant attachment is one of the four styles of attachment and is based off attachment theory which was originally developed by John Bowlby and later Mary Ainsworth and many others added to his work. Avoidants will struggle with invulnerability in relationships. Pia Melody also talks about avoidance.. or love avoidance. Her book Facing Love Addiction discusses Love Addiction as well as Love avoidance and the set up for these.

03/19/2025

To my fellow therapists…we need community..I need community. We are not meant to do this alone. Being in private practice can be like being on an island unless you create community and network.

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03/18/2025

More on anxious attachment style.. being hyper aware of small shifts in people. Anxious attachment is one of the four styles of attachment and is based off attachment theory which was originally developed by John Bowlby and later Mary Ainsworth added to his work. People with this set up will struggle with feeling anxious in relationships.

03/17/2025

Happy St. Pattys Day! Appreciate the little things.

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03/16/2025

This is my understanding of disorganized or fearful avoidant attachment style based on my experiences and research. Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the four styles of attachment and is based off attachment theory which was originally developed by John Bowlby and later Mary Ainsworth and many others added to his work. This style is a mix of anxious and avoidant. A great book on attachment is “Attached” by Amir Levine MD and Rachel S.F. Heller MA #