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01/27/2026

Outgrowing the Need

Can you think of something
that used to make you really mad
when you were growing up,
and it doesn’t anymore?

Why is that?

You outgrew the need to be bothered.
Being peaceful became more of a priority
than being upset.

And this happened naturally.

And so it is with all growth.

You will outgrow the need
to withhold love from anyone
when loving becomes the only priority.

Until then, you will suffer,
and be a constant invitation to others
to outgrow their need
for you to change.

01/26/2026

There is Only Now

If you are willing to be fully present
in the Here and Now,
this means you are completely
surrendering to and embracing
the Unknown.

You are not trying to predetermine
what the next Now
should look and feel like.

Without this, you are asleep, dreaming,
relying on the past, the mind, emotions,
conditioning, delusions, predictions, willfulness:
that which is not the ever-arriving Now.
This creates and reinforces suffering.

All of these get to be released
to wake up to the one Reality
which is expanding
and unknowably fresh
each burgeoning moment.

Daffodils get this.

01/25/2026

Living Within My Selfie

All my interpretations of what I perceive
have been packaged
by my family and cultural conditioning,
and the way my personality deciphers experience.

Since the nature of Consciousness
is that it is infinite and ever-unfolding,
all I can know for certain at this point,
is that everything I know
is partial.

Thinking that my view is the “right” one
is my delusionary selfie.
It is complete insanity
to project my snapshot on others
and judge them as wrong and lesser,
for believing otherwise.
I have decades of amends to make.

Nothing is ever “all there is to it.”
This means that contrary to popular belief,
it is narcissistic to base my confidence
on what I know.
I am much better off
embracing the Unknown
while relying on
the live-streaming of Grace.

01/24/2026

An Alternative to Reacting

When we are driven by our conditioned mind,
we are always reacting to
our feelings about the present moment.

We try to hold onto and sustain it
if we like it,
or resist, avoid, deny, or combat it
if we don’t like it.

In this way we attempt to control our experience,
through well-intentioned willfulness.

This constant reactivity
distracts us from listening to
and acting from Grace.

When we are guided by our Essence,
we are grounded in Presence each moment,
no matter what occurs.

We have no resistance to what is appearing
because as it moves through
we pay attention to learn from
the transient current moment.

Our knowing and acting
is fully aware of,
but not attached to,
what is appearing,
while being guided by
the one governing Intelligence.

In this way we practice undistracted receptivity,
allowing us to see what is essential,
listen to the Transcendent,
and speak and act
with an authentic economy
that radiates the presence of Love.

01/23/2026

Educare Silent Meditation Retreats

Have you been yearning to go deeper in what matters most in your life? Would a “container” be helpful so you could commit to a structure to put first things first for two days?

You are invited to join me for 48 hours of Silent Meditation. Each of us will do this in the location we choose. There are also four meditation spaces available at Educare in Grafton, IL/St. Louis. You can pick any of the Saturday—Sunday dates.

January 31—February 1, 2026

The silent retreat begins when you arise on Saturday. It ends when you arise on Monday. We will be 100% off the grid.

Meditation Schedule
8:00—8:30 or 8:45 a.m.
10:00—10:30 or 10:45
Lunch Break
1:00—1:30 or 1:45 p.m.
3:00—3:30 or 3:45
5:00—5:30 or 5:45
Dinner Break
7:45—8:15 or 8:30

Between meditation periods we will adhere to the following guidelines.

What is acceptable:
Journaling
Walks in nature
Yoga
Exercise
Eating or fasting
Napping
Reviewing 8 Guided Meditations provided by Sandy Wilder

What is not acceptable:
No interpersonal communication
No phone calls
No online communication
No reading
No audio listening
No video watching

Sessions with Sandy
Prior to the retreat we will have an individual call to clarify your intention and answer any questions.

If you would like to join me at Educare in Grafton, IL, I have a condominium on the confluence of the Mississippi and Illinois Rivers. This is bald eagle season, and the river views are always stunning. Great walking along the river, as well.
You would need to find local accommodations, which are plentiful this time of year.

Silent Mediation Retreat Fee (Independent of location)
Discounted Sliding Scale: $325--$250

Love to have you join me
I will be meditating at these times no matter how many people sign up. Humankind needs us to be accessing our deepest capacities at this time.

Any questions, please ask.

Learn more and register here:
https://educareunlearning.com/retreats/

01/23/2026

Prioritizing Unlearning

Unlearning begins with the conviction
that there is one infinite Being,
of which we are an indispensable component.

From this platform of Reality
it launches into finding places in your life
where there is stress, worry, avoidance,
judgment, frustration, repression,
or resentment (just to name a few).

If you feel like nothing is bothering you,
keep looking.
Usually when this occurs,
it is because we have grown accustomed
to repressing these tension spots,
often by covering them over with
human busyness and/or abstract metaphysics.

I’m not suggesting that we need to walk around
feeling stressed all the time.
I’m suggesting that
we need to consciously dwell as awareness
so that we squarely face the rough spots in our lives,
and discern what’s underneath them
that is causing the friction.

This does not require
that anyone else change or participate.
Your liberation is not dependent on another.

Through unlearning
we are not trying to destroy the ego.
We are choosing to notice it,
call it out,
and not identify with or obey it.

This harvesting process reduces suffering:
yours and ours.
This is the most direct way Home,
and the one modeled
by spiritual prophets and mystics.

01/22/2026

Are You Out of Your Mind?

I hope so.

Most of us are unconsciously shackled
in restrictive beliefs.
We have adopted boundaries that keep us
confined in a self-protective safety net.

There are people on the planet right now
that are doing what our minds say
is outside the realm of possibility.

They do this by being
out of their conditioned minds.

Any time you break a limit for yourself,
you break a limit for all humankind.
Thank you.
We need our boundless Self
to be radically obvious!

When you prove what is possible,
you leaven the collective thought of humanity,
with the freedom of our one Soul.

We are different in sequence only,
not capabilities, worth, and potential.
We each have individual timetables
as to when we break out
of our time and space shells.

When we don’t allow procrastination
to infiltrate our lives,
we give each other the example
of ignited possibility.

Your Grace-inspired heart
includes the courage to
lose your mind
and fully inhabit our truly universal Self.

01/21/2026

Need More Discipline?

It’s not a time management issue.
It’s a lack of clarified motivation.

It is where we place our attention
that matters most.
And, attention follows intention.

If your YES is clear
and passionately coming
from your authentic heart,
you will have no issues being disciplined.

There is no other reason you got up today
than to fulfill your calling to be You,
by living your gifts
to the fullest each moment.

If your YES is vague or unknown
you won’t find traction.
You won’t notice and jump at
opportunities to develop yourself.

You will drift into busyness and
lukewarm pleasures that leave you hollow
and self-displeased.
You will envy those who are on fire!

You have within you
the divine spark to fulfill your potential.
Realize that it is ready to ignite your life
if you are ready to face your fears
of authentic transformation!

01/20/2026

Unleash Yourself

What would it take for you
to feel how high you can soar
when you are grounded in your essential nature,
at one with the Universe/Source?

The vines of the conditioned mind are so unconscious
that we mistake a personality for ourselves,
and dramatically dull our daily experience.

We are the momentum of Infinity
forever opening unto Itself:
the pure unconditioned Consciousness
that lives within innate Freedom.

By being grounded in Presence,
you don’t float away
in abstract concepts of a future heaven.
You are limitlessly anchored
as the flourishing concrete potential of living Love
here and now.

Let yourself embrace whatever enters your day
as the impersonal wind of thought.
Waste no time judging or personalizing it.
It says nothing about who or what you are,
any more than the weather defines your identity.

You are the activity of pure Awareness,
the billowing of this magnificent Moment,
the untethered consciousness
tied to no objects
while being connected to all life.

Open to each sparkling breath as it is
effortlessly accepted, transformed and released.

Enjoy yourself and others and all
as the unleashed miracle of Life,
happening right now!

01/19/2026

Home Cooking

Is there someone you love so much
that what you deeply want for them
is getting in the way
of what they are ready
to want for themselves?

In this space,
you are invited to release
your well-intentioned yearning,
and cherish their innocence
in your authentic heart,
just as they are
in this very moment
of their unfolding.

Let yourself feel
the precious child in them,
independent of your stories about
their age and stage,
and how they could know better
and thus follow your inspired logic.

If they were ready to fall into Love,
would they choose your manger
because you see them so purely
that their words and actions
are nothing more than
the clothes they are wearing today?

When you are at home
with yourself in Love,
you serve everyone a casserole.

01/18/2026

Don’t Know What to Do?

When you don’t know what to do,
it is not because you have too many options,
or too few.

It may be because you have assigned yourself
the delusionary role
of decision-maker.

Who put you in charge of you
(or anyone)?

Try allowing your primary efforts
to be unlearning whatever is hindering
your ability to live in the space
of humble listening for divinely-ordered
operational guidance.

Without this natural, awake clarity,
you will likely either drift
into circuitous distractions,
or drown in the content of your life.

01/17/2026

Why We Get Stuck

It is the resistance to
embracing whatever is happening
that keeps us stuck.

It does not allow us
to go through storms,
but creates a continual downpour
of sadness, anger, and fear
that blocks our ability
to see and experience
the innate guiding presence of Grace.

The refusal to accept
what is happening now
fills us with stories
that keeps us distracted and trapped
in what is not really happening.

All that is occurring
is life changing forms,
while the Universe sustains you, and all,
in abiding Wholeness.

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