Our Story
We lost our daughter to dating violence in 2005. This did not need to happen.
Fourteen years ago, our family was hit by a parent's worst nightmare. We learned our daughter, Kristin, had been murdered by her ex-boyfriend. At that moment and often afterward, we were faced with the decision to stop and concentrate only on ourselves or take what we were experiencing and use it to help others who might face a similar situation. This has been our journey since 2005.
When Dating Hurts is more than the true story of a devastating loss. It is a detailed description of what we learned the hard way. Readers will take this walk with us beginning with a call from detectives. They will encounter lives turned upside down with no possibility of returning to normalcy. They will realize that dating violence can seize upon family in any community. Before our tragedy, the Mitchell family was no really different from yours.
This memoir is no pity piece. Its reason to exist is to alert others that dating violence is real and can touch any family unless they put into practice what we have learned. When Dating Hurts offers sound advice gained from domestic violence professionals, victims, and survivors—and from life ever since we lost Kristin.
We derived our passion to share this story from our daughter. Kristin was a strong-willed young woman who was ever-focused on helping people like herself: young women trying to figure out how to live in this world. She generously cared for the safety and well-being of her friends and other innocents. We took up her cause as our own. Her legacy is ours. We are joined together with her and we always will be.
Had we read a book like When Dating Hurts years ago, Kristin would most likely be alive today. This book can improve, and possibly save, lives. That is its sole purpose. Dating violence is real, and the more you know the safer you and those you love will be.
One-third of all women will experience serious physical abuse at the hands of someone in a relationship. That statistic alarms me. This typically happens between the ages of 16 and 24 years of age. But dating violence can happen at any age. That could be your twelve-year old daughter. Your 30-year old niece, or co-worker, or neighbor.
It can be different if you act. Besides our journey, When Dating Hurts includes a list and description of typical warning signs women encounter. Although many of these “red flags” do not appear to shout danger, continuous unhealthy behavior only escalates in frequency and severity. Had we had been aware of them, it could have been a whole different outcome.
It can be different for you. You cannot undo the past, but you can redirect the future.
When Dating Hurts will soon be available at Amazon.com.
My passion is to prevent teen dating abuse from victimizing young women and men. I need your help so I can help others.
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