09/07/2025
"Developmental theories on the cases of BPD focus on the deliberate interactions between child and caregivers, especially during the first few years of life. The ages between 18 and 30 months, when the child begins to struggle to gain autonomy, are particularly crucial. Some parents actively resist the child's progression toward separation and insist instead on a controlled, exclusive, often suffocating symbiosis. At the other extreme, other parents offer only erratic parenting (or often absent) during much of the child raising period and so fail to provide sufficient attention to, and validation for, the child's feelings and experiences. Either extreme of parental behavior- behavioral over-control and/or emotional under involvement - can result in the child's failure to develop a positive, stable sense of self and may lead to a constant, intense need for attachment and chronic fears of abandonment."
- I Hate You - Don't Leave Me, Understanding the Borderline Personality