08/10/2023
In one of our coaching sessions, I was crying after an autistic meltdown and asked Laureen: “How do people learn emotional regulation? How can I get out of the red without losing it? My kids shouldn’t have to see this.”
She shook her head. “Emotional regulation is not getting out of the red. It’s not getting in the red and if your kids are autistic, this will be apart of their life. Teach them about the red.”
😱
My brain works best with tools and analogies (you probably know this by now 😂). One of the daily ones for me is Color Gauge.
Most people start their day at a yellow. A stressful morning miiiiight be enough to push them into an orange but they have wiggle room. it takes a lot to overheat a NT brain! They’ve got a great ventilation system in there.
Me, however? I start my day at a high orange. It’s a lot easier for me to get pushed into a meltdown. Clutter, loud noises, feeling rushed? All context that shoves me closer to a system meltdown. I wake up stressed, not refreshed.
How do I USE this to help? I use color to communicate my system needs to my family!! Every. Day. EVERY DAY! All day. Several times a day.
It’s not their responsibility to make sure I stay at a yellow. But if I’m at an orange and struggling, if they have space to help, they can. Or they can know I’m trying to keep too much going and I can’t take on another. It helps 🥹
My codes:
💚- This is peace, bliss, and usually medicated. EXCEPTIONALLY hard for me to get to. This is when nothing is stressing me out presently and my body is calm.
💛- Regulated, I’m okay! Things are running as they should! (This is the goal!)
🧡 - Overworking. There is too much input, not enough output and communication is breaking down for me. I need help, time, or tools to get back down to a yellow
❤️- Meltdown. All system shutdown, crying, screaming, hitting myself, clawing at my skin, overwhelm. 🫂
This tool is for YOU! I hope you add it your toolkit and use it to communicate when you can’t.
It’s made a massive difference for my family so I can share where I’m at in healthy ways, avoid the red, and not leave others guessing.
If this sounds like your brain:
There is still time to back our project!! It means so much to us to have the community we built this for behind us.
2nd and 3rd tiers get a ticket to our workshop and replay where we are sharing our favorite tools and practices in unmasking! Youll learn all about the non-verbal communication cards and color gauge plus more tips and tricks to work with your brain! No hacks here!
Thank you, my friends! ✨
In one of our coaching sessions, I was crying after an autistic meltdown and asked Laureen: “How do people learn emotional regulation? How can I get out of the red without losing it? My kids shouldn’t have to see this.”
She shook her head. “Emotional regulation is not getting out of the red. It’s not getting in the red and if your kids are autistic, this will be apart of their life. Teach them about the red.”
😱
My brain works best with tools and analogies (you probably know this by now 😂). One of the daily ones for me is Color Gauge.
Most people start their day at a yellow. A stressful morning miiiiight be enough to push them into an orange but they have wiggle room. it takes a lot to overheat a NT brain! They’ve got a great ventilation system in there.
Me, however? I start my day at a high orange. It’s a lot easier for me to get pushed into a meltdown. Clutter, loud noises, feeling rushed? All context that shoves me closer to a system meltdown. I wake up stressed, not refreshed.
How do I USE this to help? I use color to communicate my system needs to my family!! Every. Day. EVERY DAY! All day. Several times a day.
It’s not their responsibility to make sure I stay at a yellow. But if I’m at an orange and struggling, if they have space to help, they can. Or they can know I’m trying to keep too much going and I can’t take on another. It helps 🥹
My codes:
💚- This is peace, bliss, and usually medicated. EXCEPTIONALLY hard for me to get to. This is when nothing is stressing me out presently and my body is calm.
💛- Regulated, I’m okay! Things are running as they should! (This is the goal!)
🧡 - Overworking. There is too much input, not enough output and communication is breaking down for me. I need help, time, or tools to get back down to a yellow
❤️- Meltdown. All system shutdown, crying, screaming, hitting myself, clawing at my skin, overwhelm. 🫂
This tool is for YOU! I hope you add it your toolkit and use it to communicate when you can’t.
It’s made a massive difference for my family so I can share where I’m at in healthy ways, avoid the red, and not leave others guessing.
If this sounds like your brain:
There is still time to back our project!! It means so much to us to have the community we built this for behind us.
2nd and 3rd tiers get a ticket to our workshop and replay where we are sharing our favorite tools and practices in unmasking! Youll learn all about the non-verbal communication cards and color gauge plus more tips and tricks to work with your brain! No hacks here!
Thank you, my friends! ✨
