Purposeful Growth & Intentional Healing LLC

09/16/2025

09/16/2025

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The love language we don't talk about.

It's the quiet act of someone choosing to work on themselves.

Not just for their own sake, but for the health of the relationship.

It’s easy to say “That’s just how I am,” and expect others to accept our flaws and triggers as unchangeable parts of us.

But real love ..... deep, mature love, looks different.

It’s someone who recognizes their wounds and patterns, and instead of making them your burden, takes responsibility for their healing.

It’s the partner who notices when their words cut too deep, or when old habits threaten new happiness, and chooses to do the work to grow.

You deserve someone who doesn’t expect you to simply tolerate the parts of them that hurt you.

You deserve someone who sees the impact of their actions and is willing to change, not because you demand it, but because they care about your peace, your safety, and your heart.

Love isn’t just about grand gestures or sweet words.

Sometimes, it’s about accountability.

It’s about someone who looks at their own reflection and says, “I want to be better for me, for you, for us.”

That’s the kind of love that builds trust, deepens connection, and heals old wounds.

Always remember .... you are worthy of a love that grows.

Of a partner who chooses healing over excuses, effort over complacency.

Don’t settle for less than someone who’s willing to do the work, because that’s a love language that will last a lifetime.

09/01/2025

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09/01/2025

The Double-Edged Sword

As an adult, shame becomes both:

Protective: It still tries to shield you from the old pain of exposure or rejection.
Restrictive: It blocks you from showing up authentically, silencing the very parts of you that long for expression, intimacy, and wholeness.

The Jungian Angle
From a Jungian perspective, shame guards the shadow, those disowned, hidden parts of the psyche. Behind shame you often find vitality, creativity, desire, tenderness, and power. In other words, shame is like a locked door: the lock was necessary once, but the key now lies in your adult hands.

Sit with your sensations, not the story. This is integration and the dismantling of shame in motion.

08/21/2025

08/20/2025

08/20/2025

What’s in YOUR pots survival bag???

08/20/2025

Abandonment in it’s varied forms is trauma.

08/20/2025

You are NOT the problem.
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08/13/2025

Be gentle with yourself around your resistance.

Resistance is a part of growth - it’s that tension we feel, the tug trying to keep you in your comfort zone; of trying to keep you in safe territory where things feel familiar.

It makes sense, especially when trying to break patterns around the use of old coping mechanisms. Our coping mechanisms helped us *cope*!
They kept us going at the expense of our deeper needs; they were the trade-off that kept us connected, loved, safe, alive, etc.

So when we go to give them up, when we go to stop being perfect or to stop pleasing everyone else at the expense of ourselves, our bodies naturally freak out a bit.
They shut down, they rebel, they sound the alarm that where we’re going isn’t known and it is NOT safe.
Because in the past, our bodies learned that it wasn’t.

But the way forward is to learn how to be present to that resistance; to recognize it & get curious about what belief lives beneath it, & what deeper needs & feelings learned that they needed to be hidden away.
To bring ourselves into the present moment, where we're capable of so much more.

When we learn to meet these parts of ourselves instead of judging them, we can recognize that not only are we capable adults who can show up for ourselves, but we are much more adept at finding support and help to move us through (and it’s more widely available these days). Resistance always shows up fiercely whenever you’re about to step into a new level - even if it’s something you’ve dreamt about and wanted your entire life.

Be gentle with your resistance.
These days, I start by sitting with and breathing into it, and I thank it.
My body is simply trying to keep me safe. Increasing self awareness & emotional self management skills greatly help you to be present to these moments so you can be with & move through them, instead of getting stuck in or constantly derailed by them.

If you're working to deepen your relationship with you — to create your own place of self-love and acceptance within your own heart, this is a part of our practice within the 12 month Cycle Breakers program beginning September 2nd. 3 spots left!
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