Veronica Monet's Shame Free Zone

05/21/2026

Watch here - https://youtu.be/Scv-B_K-PNI

Most people have only ever been on one side of domestic violence. I have been on both - survivor and perpetrator. What i discovered is that shame and self-hatred don't break the cycle, they fuel it. This is a conversation about trauma bonds, spiritual bypass, accountability without cancellation, and what real healing actually requires.

Drop a comment with your thoughts or share your own story, every voice in this conversation matters.

05/20/2026

Some of the strongest, most capable people you know are secretly abandoning themselves at home.

Not because they’re weak.
Because trauma-trained protector parts learned long ago that keeping the peace felt safer than risking abandonment, conflict, or emotional harm.

In this video, I break down how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps us understand why we can appear confident and successful in the outside world… yet still struggle to hold boundaries in our closest relationships.

✨ Manager Parts
✨ Firefighter Parts
✨ Exiles carrying old wounds
✨ Polarized Parts locked in survival strategies

When we stop shaming ourselves and start getting curious about our inner system, everything begins to change.

Healing isn’t about becoming harder.
It’s about becoming integrated.
Powerful.
Whole.

🎥 Watch here: https://youtu.be/CT4dlyV-e9o

My clients are showing great interest in the internal family system...

05/14/2026

Why Self-Help Books Can't Fix Your Boundaries

If you've ever read every self-help book on boundaries and still can't speak up when it matters — this is why. In IFS therapy, "firefighters" are protective parts inside you that interpret self-advocacy as danger and shut it down before you even open your mouth. Healing isn't about more information — it's about making your internal system feel safe enough to let you show up. This work happens little by little, and it starts with understanding why those protectors are there in the first place. Comment 🔥 if you want a deeper breakdown of IFS firefighters and how to start working with them.

05/13/2026

POV: Both of You See the Same Thing

She was alone in the bathroom when she looked up and saw two disembodied green eyes staring back at her — no face, no body, just eyes. She ran. When her boyfriend came home, she told him something was in there, but never said what. He went in, came back out, looked her in the eyes, and said — "green eyes, right?" She hadn't told him a single detail. They both saw the same thing. Some things don't have an explanation. Comment 👁️ if you want a more detailed breakdown of what disembodied apparitions actually are and why multiple witnesses see the same thing.

05/08/2026

05/08/2026

One of the most misunderstood things about abuse is this:

A woman can be incredibly powerful in her professional life…
and still feel powerless in her intimate relationship.

I’ve worked with many high-achieving women who are brilliant leaders, visionaries, executives, healers, entrepreneurs, and creators.

Women who can command a room.

Women who can solve impossible problems.

Women who appear unstoppable to the outside world.

And yet at home, many are quietly struggling with emotional manipulation, coercion, chronic criticism, walking on eggshells, or deep self-abandonment.

Why does this happen?

Because trauma does not disappear just because we become successful.

The protector parts we developed in childhood often follow us into adulthood and relationships.

Parts that learned:
“Keep the peace.”
“Don’t upset them.”
“Work harder for love.”
“If they leave, you won’t survive.”

These survival strategies can become so automatic that we don’t even realize we are betraying ourselves in order to maintain attachment.

This is why I love Internal Family Systems (IFS).

IFS helps us approach these wounded and protective parts with curiosity and compassion instead of shame.

And when that happens, something profound shifts.

We stop confusing anxiety with love.
We stop normalizing emotional pain.
We stop abandoning ourselves to preserve connection.

And we begin reclaiming our autonomy not just in our careers — but in our personal lives too.

Real healing is when your nervous system finally realizes:

Love should feel safe.
Not survived.

If this resonates with you, you are not alone. ❤️

04/23/2026

We just went live with Burnout to Breakthrough - and this is your last chance to join us.

If you’ve been feeling exhausted, stretched thin, or like something needs to change … this is for you.

21 powerful conversations.
Real women.
Real shifts.

It’s complimentary and you can start right away.

👉 Register here: https://burnouttobreakthroughlive.com/register?speaker=veronica

If you’ve been thinking about it, don’t overthink this one.

Join us.

Veronica

P.S. I'm one of the speakers inside, and I’d love for you to experience it with us.

Join this free online event to reclaim your energy, restore balance, and reconnect with yourself. Real conversations and practical tools.

04/22/2026

Doesn't this look delicious! It is!

Register for this free summit (I'm the Creative Director for this!) and learn more, live more and love more.

https://summit.foodrevolution.org/?uid=2&oid=3&affid=111

04/05/2026

Hey, I will be presenting April 7th on the topic of Erotic Empowerment! It's a word we hear a lot but what does it mean? I am guest presenting for the folks at The IAI Academy - an educational platform offering courses from the world's leading thinkers across Philosophy, Science, Politics and the Arts. This event also features my good friend and colleague, Norma Jean Almodovar! She and I have done a lot of TV interviews together and I'm excited to hear what she has to say.

Here's the writeup for my presentation:
For centuries, debates about s*xuality have been shaped by a persistent divide: between purity and transgression. This split still shapes how societies talk about s*x, power and agency—often leaving little room for the complexity of real lives. Drawing on decades of experience as a high-end es**rt, a s*x worker rights activist and a survivor of both childhood s*xual assault and domestic violence, Veronica Monet brings a perspective rarely heard in public discussions of feminism and s*xuality. In this talk, she examines the long-standing Madonna-whore divide and asks what it means for movements that claim to pursue women’s liberation. Join Monet as she argues that the idea of "erotic empowerment" is often misunderstood or applied too simply, and calls for a more nuanced feminism—one that confronts the prevalence of s*xual violence and takes seriously the ways trauma, agency and survival shape people’s relationships to intimacy, power and work.

And here's a summary of the entire event:
IAI Live April: Cashing Out On Erotic Capital
This event explores a growing feminist divide over s*x work, power, and autonomy. Where marriage was once criticised as trading erotic capital for security, platforms like OnlyFans are now framed by some as sites of empowerment and entrepreneurial control. Is s*x work a modern alternative to marriage, offering greater honesty and agency, or does it reproduce the same hierarchies feminism aimed to dismantle?

https://iai.tv/.../cashin.../s*x-work-and-structural-power-2

03/14/2026

This is an intense, awe inspiring, jaw dropping conversation with Christopher Stubbs, a Hendrix trained coach who survived a horrific childhood and found a way to bring healing to his whole family.

Christopher Stubbs had a horrific childhood. He and his siblings endured beatings and s*xual abuse from their own father. But when their dad went to prison f...

03/12/2026

Want to participate in my next interview? Post your questions and comments below and/or on my YouTube (just click the short video below). Since most of us know someone who was molested or r***d, I am sure you have some insights and great questions for my guest - a man who was molested by his father and found his way to both accountability and forgiveness.

In this video, Veronica shares her desire for justice concerning the Jeffrey Epstein case and the imperative for accountability for those involved in child s...