niccole.carrero.therapy

09/18/2020

Accessing and processing emotions can feel really scary but we don’t have to react to emotions we can simply observe them and process them through. So have that cry, feel that sadness, that anger.

09/03/2020

It’s okay if you’re not ready. You will get there. This type of commitment takes time.

09/03/2020

From a young age, I never really liked the concept of falling in love. It always sounded very dangerous to me and with my background my examples of love didn’t last very long. It wasn’t until I was 18, that a family friend told me you should never fall in love, you should grow in love.
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This just clicked and it made much more sense than the whole falling nonsense. But what do I do with this now? How do I grow in love?

I wasn’t sure about it, until I became a couple’s therapist and learned how we communicate our needs. Or better yet, how they get miscommunicated. We are individuals walking around looking to connect. We thrive in these connections and sexy things happen.
Nothing is more sexy than feeling fully heard, understood, and accepted for simply being ourselves . When we love with understanding we LEARN how to listen, understand, and respond to our partner’s needs.

Growing in love is loving with understanding because we have heard our partners needs and have reflected on moments where we might have gotten it wrong. Loving with understanding is trial and error and accepting the lessons that come with failing. We have had difficult conversations and sat with the discomfort when the acknowledgement of a needed change arises. It’s also the experience of loving our partner harder, when “I love you” feels unspeakable. This is the work. This is the growth.

09/01/2020

When we believe our value comes from how we can take care of other it results in fatigue and can deteriorate ones mental health over time. It’s important to set boundaries and recognize where we might have to re-write our roles.

08/30/2020

Parents!!! You got this. It’s hard work and you are doing the best you can! Using mantras and affirmations can be helpful throughout your day. These are just a few that can be used to add some flexibility and compassion to this journey.

06/19/2020

https://www.vox.com/identities/2020/4/7/21207281/coronavirus-covid-19-how-to-find-a-therapist

Telehealth options have exploded and some insurers are waiving copays, making mental health treatment more accessible during this stressful time.

05/28/2020

Birth trauma is real and effects many new parents.

04/09/2020

Add some fun activities with your little ones. I would also encourage parents to make space for their children’s feelings and ask them to talk it through. Maybe print out a feeling chart and help them integrate emotion and experiences.

04/06/2020

This is especially important right now. Give yourself all the permission to feel what’s happening right now.

03/23/2020