Warfair Counseling, Consulting, & Supervision, PLLC

09/30/2022

What a beautiful reminder that other people’s “stuff” is not about us.

, seek peace.

Gentle reminder ✨

When people are disrespectful, unkind, harmful, and mean to others remember it’s never about you and it’s always a reflection of what’s happening inside of them, and their perception of you and life.

When someone is mean it’s likely a sign that they’re not happy with themselves deep within, so they need to perceive something wrong with the other person to make themselves feel better. 🖤

(One of the healthiest habits to learn: Take nothing personally.-)

08/06/2022

https://youtu.be/Tx-kbC1un9Y

Everyone!
WE STILL NEED YOUR SUPPORT!
We have an exciting announcement: Brainspotting Phase 1 Training is going to Dakar, Senegal, August 12-23, 2022. It will be the first Brainspotting training in West Africa!

Please make a financial donation to the Brainspotting Phase 1 Senegal Training. Your donation will help makes this FIRST EVER training a tremendous success. Please make your tax-deductible donation. Donation link: bit.ly/GOBSPSenegal
Our donation goal: $6,000. Your donation will help to cover the costs of the Brainspotting books (French translation), pointers, manuals (French translation), meeting rooms, AV costs, and partial scholarships for attendees.
Our goal is to train 50 psychologists/counselors/psychiatrists/medical doctors in Brainspotting Phase 1.

This training project is led by Certified Brainspotting Therapist Ann Dillard, LMFT of Project Safety Nets, with support from the following persons who are volunteering their time and covering their own expenses:
John Edwards, LCSW - Trainer
Dr. Paula Langford, LICSW - Consultant in Training
Dr. Tasha Becton, LCMHC - Consultant in Training
Dr. David White, CADC II, ICADC – Consultant in Training
Viergelyn Chery-Reed, LMHC, ET – Certified Brainspotting Therapist
Dr. Rhonda Wells-Wilbon - Brainspotting Therapist
Amy Niang – Brainspotting Practitioner
Ismaïla Dione – Brainspotting Training Coordinator, Senegal
Mayssa Ndiaye – Project Safety Nets Regional Director, Senegal
Laverne Campbell - Project Safety Nets Team Coordinator
All donors will be listed in our acknowledgments of those who helped to make this training a success.

Dear Friends! WE STILL NEED YOUR SUPPORT!We have an exciting announcement: Brainspotting Phase 1 Training is going to Dakar, Senegal, August 12-23, 2022. It ...

03/04/2022

Counseling is for everyone. There is no need to be at war with yourself or your health. Humanity prevails.

When clinicians shy away from engaging in therapy themselves, they are limiting their ability to be effective counselors.

01/31/2022

Let's talk about Encanto.

Some comments below (My interpretation of course).

One of my favorite characters (actually, I love them all) is Luisa. Luisa (and her sister Mirabel) remind me of myself and many people I work with in many ways.

I really appreciate the role her sister, Mirabel, plays as the person who supports her when she's feel stretched and gives her permission to experience her emotions. Mirabel suggests to Luisa that she does not have to do it all, and that she certainly does not have to do it all alone. Whereas, Luisa has the mistaken belief that she is fully responsible for carrying the weight of the family. Luisa spends so much time taking care of the family that she does not take time to care for herself, and that does not serve her well. She wants to be loved, supported, hugged, too.

Take a listen to the song, "Surface Pressure" (linked in the comments). If it sounds familiar to you, know that you are not alone. Please reach out to a professional counselor. Being at war with ourselves (and/or others) doesn't serve us well. Working with a professional counselor can help us learn to war (fight) fair. As examples, we WAR FAIR by taking time for rest, by reaching out to supportive people, by allowing ourselves to experience our emotions rather than ignoring them. It is not necessary to get to place where we are about to pop, burst, explode. We can participate in life-giving activities on a daily basis that can help to prevent things from getting to that place. For some of us, it can also help to have medical interventions that support our self-care and daily living. All of it is OK. Yes, you can have a relationship with your Higher Power and a therapist, too.

If you're having thoughts about ending your life, please call the National Su***de Prevention Lifeline by dialing 1-800-273-8255.
https://su***depreventionlifeline.org/

We can all help prevent su***de. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.

01/10/2022

Sober Dad said it right y’all. Support your friends, family, colleagues AND their sobriety (from alcohol or anything else). Support of one cannot exist without the other. That’s the FAIR way.

11/23/2021

Good read.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sober-during-holidays_l_6197bcdae4b07fe2010ae3e7

Hosting a gathering this season? Here's how to make it more comfortable for those who don't drink or who are in recovery.

10/29/2021

Sometimes our emotions come upon us like gale force winds. We feel them, we accept them, and in some cases, we close the shutters. AND, we love ourselves through it all. .

10/28/2021

05/16/2021

The way we think about (interpret)or experience stressful circumstances can impact the emotional impact. How will you war fair through your stress today?

05/13/2021

We will call this marble WarFair. What an amazing feat she has described here. The only way to do it was one day at a time doing the next right thing.

I rarely think about my sobriety in terms of years. For me, celebrating 25 years of sobriety is about reflecting back on “trying to do the next right thing” for the past 9,125 days or, more honestly, for the past 219,000 hours. It also means staying humble and grateful that, with the help of countless people, I’ve been able to get back up the same number of times I’ve fallen down. And I fall a lot.

The biggest learnings from the past 25 years are twofold:

1. Own the stories and the hard s**t, or the stories you’re trying to outrun and the pain you’re denying will own you. The truth will set you free. It will kick your ass first, but then it will set you free.

2. We don’t have to do the hard stuff alone. We weren’t meant to. We heal in connection. This is why it pi**es me off when people shove my work into the self-help category.

The gifts that have accompanied my daily and sometimes hourly decision to feel instead of numb have been too many to name, but the one that I rarely talk about is how my sobriety has affected my level of self-trust.

I write a lot about trust as a marble jar. We build trust like we collect marbles – one small gesture at a time. It’s not a big, sweeping act or a single gesture in a stressful moment. Trust is a collection of small moments.

We talk about trust between people and groups, but we often forget about self-trust. Self-trust is normally the first casualty of failure or mistakes. We stop trusting ourselves when we hurt, get hurt, feel shame, or question our worth.

Here’s how we use the BRAVING tool to think about self-trust:

B - Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay?
R - Was I reliable? Did I do what I said I was going to do?
A - Did I hold myself accountable?
V - Did I respect the vault and share appropriately?
I - Did I act from my integrity?
N- Did I ask for what I needed? Was I nonjudgmental about needing help?
G - Was I generous toward myself?

Today, I’m putting 25 marbles in my self-trust jar. One for every year of my messy, hard af, wonderful, wholehearted, imperfect, sober life.

xo,
BB

05/04/2021

Just for today, there is no need to be at WAR with yourself. Fight FAIR. Uplift yourself with positive self-talk. You are important. You matter. You are Fearless, Adaptable, Inspiring, and Resilient.

MAY IS MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS MONTH.....Take care 💖

03/12/2021

In the spirit of warring fair, I did something fun today! So many people ask about who therapy is for.... well, it's for *EVERYONE*. Wellness And Recovery is For ALL Individuals & Relationships.

Give me a call if you want to talk; if I'm not the right one for you, I'll offer some suggestions for who might be a good fit. 336-422-6159.

02/28/2021

The ocean is so powerful, majestic, calming and peaceful. It also has massive power for destruction...much like people. It’s the place where I find the most Peace. What’s your WARFAIR?

02/26/2021

Black History Month is a time where the contributions of Black Americans are specially recognized and applauded. While it is important to acknowledge Black individuals that have changed history during this month, this appreciation, recognition, and acknowledgment should occur at all times. Black his...

02/24/2021

Counseling is for EVERYONE.

02/17/2021

02/13/2021

Life happens. Burnout is real. This pandemic isn't quitting. It's helpful to have someone else to help us work though it all. Therapy is an excellent addition to a routine self-care plan for some and perhaps a kick-start to a new self-care plan for others.

Let's talk: 336-422-6159