TJ Rumler Consulting

05/20/2026

Congrats to Coach Fair for an amazing career and cheers to hopeful an even more amazing retirement!

05/16/2026

Creating a space centered on learning, reflection, respect, and psychological safety has always mattered deeply. As this community continues to grow, we wanted to clearly share the values and boundaries that guide how we engage online together.

Our hope is that this page remains a place where people feel supported, challenged thoughtfully, and reminded that healing and growth happen in community.

05/15/2026

Reach GVL is doing meaningful work by showing up consistently for young people who deserve support, connection, and opportunity. If you’re looking for a way to make an impact in Greenville, go check out their mission and consider volunteering as a mentor.

Sometimes being a Hope Dealer starts with simply showing up. 💜

https://www.reachgvl.org/

05/11/2026

Arguments are not just about verbal communication. They are also about the nervous system.

When we feel attacked, dismissed, embarrassed, unsafe, or misunderstood, the brain can shift into protection mode. That means our ability to listen, reflect, problem-solve, and stay connected can go offline pretty quickly.

This is why “just calm down” rarely works.

A better question is:

“What does my nervous system need before I try to keep having this conversation?”

Sometimes the most respectful thing you can do in an argument is pause, regulate, and come back when your brain is back online.

That is not avoidance. That is emotional responsibility.

This article from The Conversation gives a helpful breakdown of what happens in the brain during conflict and what we can do about it.

When we argue with people we love, our brains briefly get ‘flooded’. A clinical psychologist explains what’s happening, and how to stop it.

05/03/2026

Happy five years to ! Thank you for all the work you’re doing 💜

05/02/2026

If you’re thinking about getting back into the dating world, this is solid advice.

Don’t just hop back out there without taking a minute to check in with yourself.

What do you actually want? Why do you want it? How does dating align with your values right now?

And maybe most importantly, which people help you feel safe, grounded, respected, and still connected to yourself?

Dating is not just about finding somebody who likes you. It’s also about paying attention to who you become around them.

That part matters. 🧠

Therapists are warning of some of the dangers of misusing (or prematurely using) dating apps, especially when it comes to mental health.

05/02/2026

Thankful for this effort and for Upstate Warrior Solution!

LEAD Upstate has launched a new initiative to provide mental health and wellness resources to law enforcement officers in Greenville County.

04/26/2026

New product alert!

Some students are not giving us a hard time. They’re having a hard time. That can show up as anger, shutdown, peer conflict, impulsive choices, or stress overload.

We can’t expect emotional regulation if we never teach emotional regulation.

That’s why we created Regulators, a 6-week middle school small group curriculum built from real experience supporting youth.

Designed for counselors, educators, and helping professionals who need practical tools that connect.

Includes:
• Coping skills
• Stress management
• Confidence building
• Identity + values work
• Ready-to-run lessons

Get it here: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Regulators-Emotional-Regulation-Small-Group-Counseling-Curriculum-8594988

04/26/2026

04/18/2026

That’s a wrap! Thank you to everyone for such a great conference-see y’all soon!

04/17/2026

We asked attendees one question:

What is a mental health truth you learned the hard way?

Their answers were honest, human, and powerful. Sometimes the lessons that cost us the most become the wisdom that helps someone else heal.

Which one hit home for you?

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