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04/13/2026

Number 4: I don’t need you to agree with me.

I’m ok if you think I’m wrong. And I don’t mind if I don’t change your mind. Because in my world now there is room for us all, I’ve made space ☺️

Also, if the topic of spiritual abuse doesn’t land for you, that’s ok. Feel free to keep scrolling friend, I’m not making it for you. It’s for the women who are waking up to the harm they’re in 💛

04/09/2026

Number 3: I have rights.

There was a time in my early 20s when the church I was attending convinced me that I had no rights as a human. I deserved nothing but hell, but thank God for Jesus.

For mostly other reasons, I wound up in partial inpatient therapy, where they handed me a personal bill of rights, among many other pieces of paper. I was shocked and appalled that someone could suggest I had enough worth in and of myself to claim these rights. I nearly dropped out due to the potentially demonic territory I had entered.

I mean, I have the right to change my mind, be unique, make mistakes, be treated with respect, make decisions on my own instincts,…?? Preposterous.

Looking back, I get to give that young adult part of me some grace for feeling there was no choice but to swallow all those beliefs in order to avoid thinking too highly of myself (and thereby forfeit much needed grace).

She didn’t have to be a child to be vulnerable.

What are you relearning these days, or hoping to?

04/08/2026

Number 2: Diversity isn’t something to fear!

In fact it’s quite the opposite for me now. I find it to be so invigorating!

Now that my time is not monopolized by the conservative Christian church (which in my case was always comprised of the white middle and middle-upper class), I have bandwidth to get to know my neighbors who come from many different countries and cultures, without fear of being compromised.

What a gift it has been to be released from the need to associate only with “like-minded people.”

Have you felt something similar to this?

04/07/2026

Number 1: I’m not better than anyone else, especially people who don’t share my perspective and opinions.

It’s strange to realize I was part of a culture that felt so superior in knowledge to others at the same time I was to consider myself “snow-covered dung” (Martin Luther). I guess the only other alternative was the unfrosted kind? I’m not sure where love fit into that framework.

I’ll be back to share more of my relearning, and in the meantime if you feel like it, like and follow and fill me in on your relearning in the comments 🤗

04/02/2026

I spend my days with women who are coming to terms with the consequences of a gospel that preached they were bad, so much so that a loving(?) God had his son murdered to save us from burning for an eternity in hell. (Maybe this is not exactly what our Sunday school teachers say, but to concrete-thinking young minds, it’s what they interpret.)

This message, swallowed over and over beginning at a young age, can cause developmental trauma (or the inability to achieve essential developmental milestones along the path to maturity). It can lead to destabilization due to overwhelming fear, low self-worth, insecure attachment, pathological people pleasing, and perfectionism, to name a few.

So, are you confident that what is being fed to your kids on Easter (and other Sundays) isn’t slowly poisoning them?

03/31/2026

Not every Christian church will deliver a PSA (Penal Substitutionary Atonement) flavored gospel to you or your kids on Easter, but in my experience (personal and professional), it’s a great idea to find out ahead of time!

Especially for kids, PSA theory is a scary, confusing, and developmentally inappropriate way of telling the story of Jesus’ death and resurrection and what it means for us.

And because I’m the one who helps women heal from the wounds these beliefs caused, and not a theological scholar, I can’t recommend enough as a resource for parents who are wanting to bring Jesus to life for their kids in healthy, inspiring, and engaging ways.

03/27/2026

Not all Christian churches are misogynistic, but when they are, there will be signs.

03/24/2026

Over-explaining is a common behavior among those of us who were (not always explicitly) trained in our environments to outsource our wisdom in order to avoid shaming, judgment, and criticism.

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03/23/2026

Listen, if the first response you get notifies your nervous system the person across from you is meeting your vulnerability with an attempt to fix their own fear, give the People Pleaser in you a pass. That prayer will do no one any good, and probably plenty of harm to you.

03/10/2026

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