The Pastor’s Therapist

05/01/2026

I know it’s been a minute…but here’s a fresh for you. Now I must warn you, tonight’s bar is not like the other ones I’ve posted. I’ve been at work today and unless you’ve been under a rock…the highest court in the land just did the unthinkable. The only thing that resonated with me while reading about it was one of the nastiest speeches delivered by none other than Malcolm X. This speech, “The Ballot or The Bullet” hit me like a ton of bricks today. I’ve read it many times but today…today was heavy. I realized that there are moments where a people either recognize what’s shifting…
or realize later they let it shift around them (stay close). Malcolm warned us that there are years that carry weight…where delay isn’t neutral, it’s costly.😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨When access to the vote is weakened or made uncertain, that’s not a technical glitch…it’s a signal🤌🏽🤌🏽 If access is under pressure attention must increase, why? Because disengagement doesn’t freeze outcomes…it lets them move without you😞😞. Say what you want about Malcolm but, he was clear: not reckless action, not provocation, but the right to protect dignity and community when protection feels uneven. Right now in this moment, that looks like lawful, disciplined engagement: knowing your rights, using them, showing up with intention🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽. 🗣️🗣️We must protect what matters while participating where it counts! Understand this, discipline is power…but presence is protection (that’s a whole word). I’m fitna say this with my whole chest…🗣️Stop pouring loyalty into places that don’t produce results🗣️.
Understand this…Not every system deserves your silence and not every leader deserves your trust‼️ If it doesn’t serve your community…stop serving it your energy🤌🏽🤌🏽. Control your participation, your information, your choices…or those choices get made for you. My prayer for tonight is simply this…God, give us clarity in a moment that demands it. Discipline to act with wisdom, and the courage to stay engaged without losing peace. Keep us anchored…and awake. ✌🏽✌🏽
Dr. TT

04/28/2026

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04/27/2026

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04/21/2026

Dr. Cerina Fairfax. Vice-Mayor Nancy Metayer. Eight children. Domestic violence is in the headlines but for generations it’s plagued our homes, our churches, and our communities. On Wednesday evening I’m going live with to make space for grief, truth, and guidance.

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04/09/2026

Tonight’s comes by way of the book of Jude. You ever hear that one verse and you immediately remember what God has done for you? The text says, “Now unto Him, who is able to keep you from falling. And to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy. To the only wise god our Savior, be glory and majesty; dominion and power…”
It’s only four months into the new year…some of us are still here and we don’t even fully know how. Not because we got everything right…not because we were always strong….not because we never had moments where we almost lost it. 🗣️We’re here because God kept us🗣️🗣️ Somewhere between the tears, the pressure, the silent battles, and the days we just showed up because we had to…God was doing what only He could do🙏🏽This whole time, it wasn’t on us…it was on Him🤌🏽🤌🏽It’s wild because while we were trying to hold it together,
God never lost His grip😮‍💨😮‍💨. As a matter of fact, He never needed our strength to begin with. He just needed our yes, even if it was shaky.

If I can be fully transparent, there were moments I didn’t feel stable…moments I questioned myself and moments I didn’t even recognize the version of me I had become😢 Then I realized that I may have lost my balance …BUT I DIDN’T LOSE GOD🏃🏽‍♀️
I’m gonna hold your hand with a napkin and a piece of Tula’s fried fish when I say this…being kept doesn’t mean you never struggled, it means you were guarded while you did (Talk Johnson)! Ironically, that’s the part we don’t always shout about. God didn’t remove every hard moment….he didn’t cancel every breakdown…he didn’t stop every tear from falling. 🗣️He just made sure none of it took me out🗣️🗣️(I just quickened)

Stay with me because here’s where grace really starts to speak…‼️God doesn’t just keep us through it…He carries us beyond it‼️ He doesn’t present a version of us that’s broken, ashamed, and barely acceptable…Nahhh…He presents us covered…whole…and redeemed🙌🏽🙌🏽. Understand this…God presents who He covered, not who we used to be. And the wild part? He’s not doing it reluctantly…he’s not tolerating our journey.
He’s not annoyed with our process. He’s doing it with joy! Check this out..God celebrates what He kept(where’s that shoe throwing emoji).
Let that marinate in your Shondo for a minute😌😌 The same you that cried...the same you that doubted…the same you that almost gave up (yall don’t know when to shout) He looks at you with joy♥️♥️♥️
So tonight, we don’t end with pressure… “try harder.” or “get it together.”
We end with truth and it’s simply this…I didn’t hold on…HE held ME🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
And if He kept you through that…He will surely keep you through this✌🏽✌🏽
Dr. TT

04/03/2026

A fresh for …

As we get closer and closer to Sunday…there is something about Maundy Thursday
that will humble you if you let it. Tonight isn’t loud…It isn’t dramatic in the way we often expect. It’s intimate…It’s heavy and It’s holy.
It is the kind of night where love sits at the same table as betrayal…and doesn’t flinch.

So walk with me for a minute…In Luke 22:19–21, Jesus is at the table with His disciples. He takes bread…he gives thanks...he breaks it…he gives it. And then He says: “This is my body given for you…”
GIVEN…😮‍💨 Not seized…not stolen…not taken from HIM against HIS will…GIVEN.

That means even in the shadow of the cross,
Jesus is not powerless…He is surrendered!
I’m gonna hold your hand with a Cadbury Chocolate Easter egg when I say this…Some of the things that broke you did not catch God by surprise(yall don’t know when to shout). And then, almost without warning,
the text shifts and the text says, “But the hand of him who is going to betray me
is with mine on the table.”🧐🧐That line resonated with me because Jesus is not at a distance from betrayal. Betrayal is close enough to touch Him…close enough to dip with Him…close enough to sit in the same sacred space. And still… He stays at the table (I just quickened). You see it takes oil to stay seated when you can feel betrayal in the room🥶🥶.

That is what makes this night holy. Jesus is fully aware. He knows who will betray Him…he knows who will deny Him…he knows who will fall asleep instead of pray. And yet He does not withhold Himself😮‍💨. He still breaks bread…he still pours and He still gives🙏🏽.
If yall never read another anchorbar, please remember this. ‼️Real maturity is not losing your posture just because you lost your illusions‼️ Watch this…John takes us even deeper. In John 13:4–5, Jesus gets up from the meal, wraps a towel around Himself,and begins washing feet…here’s where it get interesting because He’s not just washing Peter’s feet…he’s not just washing John’s feet…HE’S washing Judas’ feet too(where is my shoe throwing emoji?!?).The feet of the one already carrying betrayal in his heart. Jesus kneels anyway...🥺🥺

He touched what was about to wound Him. And that right there…that’s where a lot of us would have dipped out ✌🏽We would have drawn a line...shifted they way we were sitting in our chair...and made bail arrangements cause what we not fitna do is this🤨.But Jesus does not become less who He is because someone else has chosen
to be less than what they should be(inserts Baptist stank face). Listen…Don’t let who did you wrong talk you out of who God called you to be🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️. Maundy Thursday is not just about communion…it’s about consecration…it’s about what it looks like to remain submitted when you know pain is already in motion😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨.
To remain tender when you can feel the shift…to remain obedient when love is about to cost you everything😮‍💨😮‍💨. We have not been anointed to react to everything we discern‼️. Some things God lets us see
are not for exposure…They’re for posture(Talk Johnson). Not everything we discern is meant to be announced🗣️🗣️.
Some things are meant to be carried in prayer…held with restraint and to teach us
how to stay low and submitted without becoming passive or blind❤️. When God has steadied your spirit, you don’t have to announce what you know…maybe that’s what makes the table so weighty😢😢. You see the table will reveal you…it will show you whether your love is deep or just convenient...whether your humility is real
or only present when it’s easy(cuuud). Whether you can stay near when everything in you wants to recoil 🥺. The cross may be public, BUT the table is personal (sheesh).
Before Jesus carried the cross, He sat at the table. He served…He lowered Himself and
He stayed tender in the presence of what could have made Him hard. Please know this…Betrayal in the room does not cancel the assignment on your life✌🏽❤️
Dr. TT
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03/31/2026

Who’s up for a mid-day 👀
So boom…I was having a conversation with my mom and I began to tell her that Holy Week has become my favorite time of the year. One of my favorite hymns simply says, “Lest I forget Gethsemane, Lest I forgot Thine agony, Lest I forget Thy Love for me…Lead me to Calvary.” These are not just lyrics…it’s a prayer because forgetting doesn’t always look like denial. Sometimes it looks like moving too quickly…going through the motions or knowing the story… without sitting in what it cost🥺🥺.
Holy Week brings me back to the center. Not to rush past it…BUT to remember🙏🏽.
In Luke 23:33–34, Jesus is on the cross and he says, “Father, forgive them…” Even there…in pain, in exposure, in suffering…HIS posture is still mercy😮‍💨😮‍💨. That’s what Calvary holds! Not just sacrifice..love…costly love…intentional love..love that stayed when it could have walked away(yessuhh). Understand this…‼️You can know the story…and still forget the weight of it‼️(cues shouting music).
The hymn doesn’t ask for more knowledge.
It asks for direction…lead me🙌🏽🙌🏽.
Because left to ourselves…we drift…we get distracted…we move past what matters and settle into familiarity. Here’s your cue to shout…BUT CALVARY pulls us back (Talk Johnson). Not to guilt…but to truth. Hear me…🗣️You don’t arrive at Calvary casually…
you have to be led there(inserts Dawson stank face). Led past comfort…led past routine…led back to the place where love was fully revealed❤️. And when you really sit there…it does something to you. It reorders things…it quiets what felt urgent.
It brings clarity to what actually matters😮‍💨.
🤌🏽🤌🏽Some things don’t shift until you remember what it cost🤌🏽🤌🏽. So this week…don’t just observe. Ask to be led✌🏽
Shalom,
Dr. TT

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03/28/2026

It’s time for tonight’s …quick question…what happens when you need answers more than you need stillness?!?

Sooo…lately, my mind hasn’t been still…It’s been searching. Trying to make sense of things. Trying to figure out what’s next…trying to get clarity. And if I’m being honest… My meditations haven’t been about sitting with God. They’ve been about getting answers from Him🥺🥺 Did you know that you can be praying…and still be restless😮‍💨 It sounds spiritual on the surface. You’re thinking…processing…talking to God. But underneath it…there’s urgency. A need to resolve…a need to understand and a need to move forward. Peep this…‼️Not all seeking is surrender…some of it is pressure‼️
And that’s where Psalm 19:14 has been sitting with me…David said, “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
be acceptable in Your sight…” When you really sit with that…David isn’t asking for answers. He’s asking for alignment between what’s happening in him and what’s acceptable before God😮‍💨So…allow me a moment to elaborate…🗣️Anchor Check🗣️
“The words of my mouth…” meaning what I say out loud…what I release and what I give voice to. Then he says, “…and the meditation of my heart…” In other words, what I sit with...what I replay and what I rehearse internally. It’s crazy because eventually what you keep thinking becomes what you start saying and what you start saying shapes how you show up (cuuuuud). If your mind is unsettled…your words will eventually echo it (Talk Johnson🗣️🗣️).
And here’s the part that really puts us in check…this guy said, “…be acceptable in Your sight…”(really David🧐🧐🤨)
Not…does it make sense to me?
Not…Is it justified?
Not…Do I have a reason?
BUT…IS THIS ALIGNED WITH GOD!?!? (Inserts that Dawson stank face) Imm hold your hand while eating a piece of chicken from Kat’s Community Kitchen when I say this…🗣️🗣️Not everything that feels urgent
is actually aligned🗣️🗣️ and you know what? I had to sit with that😢😢 Because what I’ve been calling “meditation”…has really been mental movement😢😢Replaying…analyzing and just trying to land somewhere🥺🥺I’m learning that you don’t just have to guard your words…you have to guard what your mind keeps feeding on🤯🤯 Did you know that you can thinking all day…and still be stuck in the same place😳😳 So today, I’m not coming to God trying to figure everything out. I’m coming to Him to realign🙏🏽🙏🏽.
Not: “Tell me what to do.”
But: “Let what’s in me… be acceptable to YOU”
Sometimes…just sometimes God doesn’t answer the question…He settles the person asking it✌🏽✌🏽
Dr. TT

03/26/2026

Tonight’s is courtesy of a conversation I had a few months ago with Brandon Dawson and Chief Maine. Ya’ll know the story of the man of sat by pool right?!? So boom…there’s a moment in John 5:1–10 that will sit with you if you let it. A man had been lying by the pool for thirty-eight years…🗣️🗣️Thirty-eight🗣️🗣️
At some point, what started as a condition…
became a way of life…the waiting…the watching…the almost😒😒. Here’s the thing…You can live in something so long…
it starts to feel normal, even when it’s not healthy😮‍💨😮‍💨. Day after day, he stayed in the same place…watching others step into what he had been hoping for. Getting close… but never quite getting there. Over time, disappointment doesn’t just hurt…
it reshapes how you see what’s possible (sheesh). Delayed doesn’t just test your patience…it will start rewriting your expectations if you’re not careful (Talk Johnson).
However, Jesus shows up and instead of immediately changing the man’s situation…
He asks a simple question: “Do you want to be made well?”🧐🧐 Peep this…the man doesn’t say yes…He explains🤦🏽‍♀️

“I don’t have anyone.” “Every time I try, someone gets there before me.” Blah Blah Blah…It’s honest…it makes sense. But it also reveals something deeper. I’m gonna hold your hand with a napkin and say this…‼️‼️‼️When you’ve been in something long enough…your explanation can get stronger than your desire to change‼️‼️(Where’s that show throwing emoji). People don’t always stay stuck because they want to…they stay because the pattern is familiar.And familiar can feel safer than unknown…even when it’s costing you😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨. Here’s your “ah ha” moment…Familiar dysfunction will always feel more comfortable than unfamiliar freedom… at first👀. Jesus doesn’t engage the explanation…he brings it back to the man. Not the crowd…not the timing…not the lack of support…Him! Here’s your cue to shout…‼️Healing will confront you before it changes you‼️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️Jesus asked…“Do you want to be made well?”
Not: “Do you understand your situation?”
Not: “Can you explain what happened to you?”
BUT…Do you want something different?(I just quickened) At some point, the question shifts from “What happened to me?” to
“What am I willing to do now?”🤌🏽🤌🏽
Healing isn’t just about what God can do. It’s also about what you’re willing to release,
what you’re willing to step away from, and what you’re ready to take responsibility for. My prayer for tonight is simply this…God, You see the places in us that have gone unnamed…the patterns we’ve learned to live with…and the weight we’ve carried for longer than we should have. Give us the courage to answer You honestly. Not with explanations… but with truth. Help us to recognize what is ours to carry…and what we need to release🙌🏽🙌🏽. Where we’ve grown comfortable in places that are not healthy, give us the willingness to move.
And where healing feels unfamiliar…give us the grace to trust You there. Meet us in the tension between where we are and where YOU are calling us to be.✌🏽✌🏽
Dr. TT

03/25/2026

You can lead others… and still need space to heal.

Welcome to The Pastor’s Therapist™

This space is for leaders, pastors, athletes, and high-capacity individuals who carry a lot… but don’t always have a place to put it.

Here, we talk about:
🧠 mental health
🙏🏽 faith
🎯 pressure + performance
🛑 burnout

And introduce AnchorBars — short, direct truths that keep you grounded.

If you’re used to being the strong one…
this space is for you.

👉 Follow. Stay anchored.

01/17/2026

The Pitt County Salvation Army will operate an overnight warming station due to projected inclement weather on Sunday evening, January 17, 2026, at 2718 South Memorial Drive in Greenville. The warming station is for adults only and will open at 6:00 p.m. for an overnight stay. Space is limited to a maximum of 20 individuals and will be available on a first-come, first-served basis.

01/06/2026