Valiant Living Men's Recovery Program

01/26/2026

Sometimes it is not about numbing out.
It is about feeling worthy.
In this clip, Gary Katz explains how some forms of s*xual acting out are driven less by escape and more by validation. The attention, the texts, the feeling of being wanted or admired can temporarily quiet deeper questions of worth and belonging.
This is where many leaders and clergy get caught. When validation becomes a coping strategy, the behavior is only the surface expression of something much deeper.
This episode helps name the pattern so healing can actually begin.
Watch the full episode:
Why So Many Church Leaders Collapse with Gary Katz
www.valiantliving.com/episode54

01/23/2026

Process addiction is not about being addicted to a substance.
It is about how the brain learns to cope.
In this clip, Gary Katz explains how the brain can learn a process that helps it feel better in the moment. For some people, sadness or loneliness gets quickly transformed into s*xual feelings because that shift feels more tolerable than pain. Over time, the brain repeats the pattern.
This conversation helps name what many people experience but struggle to explain. Healing begins when we understand what the brain is doing, not just when we try to stop behaviors.
Watch the full episode:
Why So Many Church Leaders Collapse with Gary Katz
www.valiantliving.com/episode54

01/22/2026

Setting boundaries with a spouse struggling with addiction can feel overwhelming.
Boundaries aren’t about control or punishment. They’re about safety, clarity, and self-respect.
We recently published a guide for wives that includes practical language and support for navigating boundaries without escalating conflict.

Read the full article here:

Learn how to set healthy boundaries with an addicted spouse using clear language and follow-through. A practical script for wives navigating addiction and recovery.

01/21/2026

In this clip, Rabbi and therapist Gary Katz names something many people never had language for. The strategies that once helped us survive, whether substances, s*x, achievement, charisma, or being the funny or successful one, often start as solutions. Over time, they can quietly become the very thing that keeps us stuck.
This episode is about learning how to get intimate with ourselves, seeing all the parts of who we are, and unwinding coping strategies that once protected us but now create distance and disconnection.
We also talk about why recovery is not one-size-fits-all. Healing requires understanding your specific brain process, not just removing behaviors.
Watch the full episode:
Why So Many Church Leaders Collapse with Gary Katz
www.valiantliving.com/episode54

01/20/2026

Many spouses reach a breaking point and feel forced to issue ultimatums.

While understandable, ultimatums often backfire and leave families feeling even more stuck.

There is another approach. The leverage model focuses on boundaries, clarity, and supported action instead of fear and threats.

We break down the difference and how families can move forward with confidence.

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Learn the difference between ultimatums and leverage in addiction recovery, why ultimatums often fail, and how families can create change through clarity and boundaries.

01/19/2026

Sometimes the bravest thing is moving forward without knowing how it will turn out.

In this moment, Grace shares how taking a step while still afraid led her to the support she needed.

This conversation is about courage, trust, and healing over time.

Watch the full episode and download the free guide at
valiantliving.com/episode53

01/16/2026

There is no such thing as a perfect or “functional” family.

In this moment, Grace explains how healing began when her family became willing to acknowledge the mess and talk honestly about how they were feeling.

This conversation is about growth, honesty, and doing the work over time.

Watch the full episode and download the free guide at
valiantliving.com/episode53

01/15/2026

Many men believe they should be able to overcome addiction through effort alone.
When relapse continues despite sincere attempts, it is not a character flaw. It is a sign that deeper support is needed.
We recently published an article explaining when willpower isn’t enough and how professional treatment helps men build lasting recovery.

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Learn when to seek addiction treatment for men, why willpower alone often fails, and how professional support helps men break cycles and build lasting recovery.

01/14/2026

Recovery is not about rushing forward.
It is about learning how to slow down, stay grounded, and take the next right step.

At our Foxfield PHP house, the labyrinth is a space for reflection and movement. A reminder that healing happens one step at a time and that every step matters.

Whether you are walking this journey yourself or supporting someone you love, you are not alone.

01/14/2026

Boundaries can carry grief, not just resolve.

In this moment, Grace shares how difficult it was to set a boundary during college move-in, holding both love and hurt at the same time.

This conversation is about honesty, grief, and healing over time.

Watch the full episode and download the free guide at
valiantliving.com/episode53

01/13/2026

For many men, addiction functions as a way to escape uncomfortable emotions.
Recovery requires learning emotional regulation. Not suppressing feelings, but developing the ability to experience them without reacting or escaping.

We recently published an article explaining why emotional regulation is essential in men’s addiction recovery and how learning this skill supports long-term healing.

Read the full article here:

Emotional regulation in addiction recovery helps men tolerate feelings without escaping into compulsive behaviors. Learn how regulation skills support long-term recovery.

01/12/2026

Setting a boundary does not mean you stop caring.
It means you start protecting yourself.

In this moment, Grace shares how she named a clear boundary during one of the most painful seasons of her life, choosing to put her own wellbeing first.

This conversation is about honesty, self-protection, and healing over time.

Watch the full episode and download the free guide at
valiantliving.com/episode53