Next Generation Counseling, LLC

01/08/2025

TONIGHT - “Break Free From… People Pleasing” group begins! Last chance if you want to join. Must register before 3pm today! Group starts at 7pm.

11/28/2024

Today and every day, I’m thankful for my work. It’s such a privilege and an honor that you let me into your inner space. I’m thankful for brave people who show up in their brokenness and learn to love the pieces of themselves that have been rejected for so long. I’m thankful for brave couples who lean into connection even when it’s so vulnerable and so scary. I’m thankful that I get to witness change, healing and growth, and call it a “job.” Thank you to every client who has trusted me to be a part of your journey. And thank you to every person who’s making space for others to show up fully as they are. The world is better because of you. 🤎

11/10/2024

So excited to offer this new group. It’s a great way to get quality therapy for a very reasonable price, particularly if people pleasing is the main issue you struggle with. We will be meeting weekly and it is a 12 week commitment, so keep that in mind when deciding if it’s right for you. If you’re interested, reach out by email at anakelley@nextgenerationcounseling.com because spots are limited and you must register ahead of time to join.

08/15/2024

People tend to assume that the high performing individuals “have it all together.” Because they get attention for their achievements, people rarely see the stress and anxiety that they may experience. Sometimes, the achieving in itself is actually a way they cope with feelings of inadequacy.
“If I can be the best at everything I do, I will be worthy of love / respect / etc.” “If I achieve enough, they will be proud of me.”
Let’s normalize the struggle that comes with high expectations.
If you or someone you know struggles in this area, let’s talk. I provide evening appointments to accommodate students, athletes, and working professionals.

www.nextgenerationcounseling.com

08/08/2024

Since school is starting back up, I wanted to let the teachers out there know that I am here to support you. Teaching is one of the highest stress jobs out there, and burnout is REAL. I offer evening appointments as late as 8pm, both in person and virtually.

www.nextgenerationcounseling.com

05/17/2024

I’m accepting new clients in Greenville and online across SC. I have evening availability. Self pay only (I do not accept insurance). www.nextgenerationcounseling.com

05/17/2024

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05/12/2024

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05/06/2024

When we go through an overwhelming life event, parts of us will step up to keep us safe. This can be life saving. Some examples may be taking care of younger siblings because a parent is unavailable, anticipating the feelings of an alcoholic parent in order to survive outbursts of aggression, and more. The thing is, if we never heal those wounds, those parts of us can go into overdrive after feeling the need to protect us for so many years. We may end up walking on egg shells in relationships, taking responsibility for things that aren’t ours, shutting down during conflict, worrying about things we can’t control, or sacrificing our other needs to make others happy.

Where some therapy fails (or works only temporarily) is that it teaches you that these parts are actually thoughts you’re having that you need to ignore or change (because they’re “wrong”). In reality, that can sometimes make it worse.

Think about it… if you’ve spent 30+ years protecting a child who you truly believed to be in danger, would you trust it when someone came in and said “okay I’ve got it from here. You can go home now?” No! You may stop for a while, but you’d constantly be lurking around watching, looking for evidence that the child may actually not be safe, and being ready to intervene again if needed.

With parts work, we actually help build relationships with your protective parts, honor and appreciate these instincts, and find healing so these protectors can learn (in their own time) that it may be safe to take on a new role.

05/05/2024

05/03/2024

When we grow up with the fear that if we aren’t enough in some way, we may not be loved, we develop a sense of perfectionism that functions to keep us safe and connected (in relationship). That is essential to our survival as children because we desperately need adults. We are dependent on them. Sometimes these fears were never warranted, but sometimes they were. Not everyone has unconditional love. Either way, as adults we can learn to give ourselves what we always needed… space to have feelings and opinions, to make mistakes, to be human. To be who we are (not who everyone expects us to be). It’s a hard journey, and therapy can help.

05/02/2024

I’ve made getting therapy easier than ever. With in-person and telehealth options, evening appointments, and online self-scheduling (goodbye phone tag!), you can get the support you need in whatever way works for you. I intentionally work from 4-8pm to accommodate many different professions, including 7am-7pm healthcare workers.
Schedule an appointment or a free 15 minute phone consultation today.