New Pattern Counseling

09/03/2024

Happy Return to School!
If you're stressed, or finding your compulsive stress responses are still going, then we've got your back!
New Pattern Counseling is accepting new clients for individual and group work. We love to be with you in all your distress, and the victories that come afterwards!

Individual and Group Therapy for Compulsive Behavior and Addiction

08/29/2023

6 years ago I took the plunge into private practice...really with no sensible back-up plan.
Through the mercies of God, the prayers of St. Xenia of St. Petersburg and lots of other people, and a bit of hustling, what started in a shoe-box of an office has now grown into a recovery and trauma focused clinic sporting an office with lots of windows, a HUGE lobby, and a group of very excellent clinicians!
It's been quite a ride, and I am thankful for everyone who inspired confidence in me. Also grateful to people who made me slow down and learn how to do the details.

So then - tell your friends and family - for problems with addiction, trauma, relationships, sexuality, spirituality...or to just go on supported journey of self-discovery....
NEW PATTERN COUNSELING is accepting new clients!!

04/05/2023

What's the relationship between Money and Mental Health?
Between Stewardship and Sobriety?
Between Fiscal matters and Faith?
In this most practical of interviews, I interview Dino Biaggi, the Financial Literacy Manager at Birch Community Services, and we unpack all these questions.
For the clinicians out there, we make frequent references to Addiction Interaction and underlying narratives from our families of origin.
For the literature buffs and Tolkien fans, Yes, we do also reference the Steward of Gondor.

‎Health & Fitness · 2023

04/05/2023

‎Health & Fitness · 2023

07/01/2020

Jesus loves me, this I know…if my parents were attuned to my emotions…and if my church presented God as a secure attachment figure. Easy. Right? Well…

Rhys Pasimio and Krispin Mayfield tackle the intersections, tensions, and sometimes contradictions between Attachment Science and Theological beliefs and practices typical of many American Protestant Evangelical Churches. We compare and contrast Protestant concepts of God, Sin, Love and Relationship with the same concepts viewed from perspectives of Attachment Science, and Eastern Orthodoxy. We look at how healthy attachment is formed, how healthy attachment is confused, and what counselors and churches can do differently as we nurture our people.

Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Krispin Mayfield – krispinmayfield.com

Krispin can also be found on the podcast Attached to the Invisible, at
https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/prophetic-imagination-station/attached-to-the-invisible

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

Jesus loves me, this I know…if my parents were attuned to my feelings…and if my church presented God as a secure attachment figure. Easy. Right? Well… Rhys Pasimio and Krispin Mayfield tackle the int

06/25/2020

Let's say you have a teenager or young adult child who needs support for mental health and/or recovery challenges. What would you do? Where would you turn?
Consider Newport Academy!
Marcus Robinson introduces the vision and method of Newport Academy's inpatient program, in particular the skillful and holistic application of Attachment Based Family Therapy.
Newport is currently accepting new clients, but let the inquiring family member beware; recovery and mental health are not a spectator sports - the whole family gets involved!

This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Marcus Robinson - marcus.robinson@newportacademy.com

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

Let's say you have a teenager or young adult child who needs support for mental health and/or recovery challenges. What would you do? Where would you turn? Consider Newport Academy! Marcus Robinson in

06/09/2020

When you become aware that you have had a damaging impact on a person, or that your group of people has had an oppressive impact on another people group, what does it cost you to believe them, to center their experience, and for a time prioritize it?
What is difficult about considering that these things they says about you may be true?
What makes it even more difficult to consider these experiences may be a result of your actions?
To the individual or group confused by defensiveness, rage, “over-reaction,” and things like protests, consider that after the devastation of betrayal, deceit, gaslighting, abuse, and dehumanizing they have experienced, that rage is the only way they feel safe to show up with you?
Consider that beneath the anger is grief. Deep sadness. Profound loss. Even fear and terror.
Consider that the abrasiveness of their words and gestures are their reaction to your impact on them.
We need to listen to their words, and make space for their feelings, and prioritize their experience!

Rhys Pasimio explores a parallel between the experiences of betrayal trauma and systemic racism, and issues a challenge to those who have inflicted harm to consider and own the impact of their actions

05/26/2020

“We have to attend to what’s lost when we make changes, even when the changes are good.”
At the onset of the Corona Virus, the counseling community migrated en masse to providing primarily, and sometimes exclusively, telehealth services. Rhys Pasimio and Aaron Kelsay reflect on this transition, what our therapeutic relationships have gained, and what we have lost.
This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Aaron Kelsay – akelsay@voaor.org

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

“We have to attend to what’s lost when we make changes, even when the changes are good.” At the onset of the Corona Virus, the counseling community migrated en masse to providing primarily, and someti

04/29/2020

What are the barriers to lasting change? Turns out some of the biggest are internal, and have to do with relationships.
Rhys Pasimio and Ben Poling have a conversation with CSAT colleague Stephen Grant and discuss how change happens. We talk about First and Second Order Change, (changing behaviors, then changing motivations and internal values) and Grant introduces the concept of Third Order Change - Changing relationships to self, others, the world, and God. Along the way, we give nods to Internal Family Systems Theory.
Grant also gives a brief introduction to ART – Accelerated Resolution Therapy, and changing the way we experience memories, particularly trigger memories.

This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com
Stephen Black– gracefallcounseling.com

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

What are the barriers to lasting change? Turns out some of the biggest are internal, and have to do with relationships. Rhys Pasimio and Ben Poling have a conversation with CSAT colleague Stephen Gran

04/14/2020

Rhys and Nick venture into a conversation about Feminism! We explore what feminism is, how it benefits women, and how it benefits men. We reflect on our own experiences and challenges with growing up as men surrounded by toxic masculinity and how adopting some feminist ideas is leading to healthier and more self-aware lives. Along the way, we call out some trends in both the church and the counseling world on how power is managed, how knowing is understood, and how we relate to people, and offer some ideas and hopes for how we can all continue growing together.

Rhys and Nick venture into a conversation about Feminism! We explore what feminism is, how it benefits women, and how it benefits men. We reflect on our own experiences and challenges with growing up

04/07/2020

Need a break from the Corona Virus? Let’s talk about culture and diversity!
The counseling relationship is marked by a stark power differential that is only made starker by differences in race, class, gender, education, sexual orientation, physical ability, and many other factors. How do we consider the power differential and work for what is best for the other person, while neither dismissing their problems, nor perpetuating systemic oppression? What are the cultures to consider, and who are the vulnerable people? Aaron Kelsay shares his experience of providing addiction counseling services to clients of diverse racial and class backgrounds. We consider how to consider the impact of our Whiteness and discuss striving for a mindset of cultural humility versus trying to master cultural competency skills. Along the way, we question established treatment structures, such as the 12-Steps, that came from privilege and tend to support privilege. We advise against use of jargon without first spending time in relationship earning the right to speak. Through it all, we challenge each other, and other professionals with power to be mindful of the space they occupy, and to always seek to learn from others and be willing to grow and change.

Need a break from the Corona Virus? Let’s talk about culture and diversity! The counseling relationship is marked by a stark power differential that is only made starker by differences in race, class,

03/31/2020

How do we respond to crisis? How do we maintain a peaceful center and making meaningful contributions to our community in the midst of our own fears? One answer may be impartiality toward the outcome.
Rhys Pasimio caught up with Aaron Esparza back on March 20, 2020 and they had a lively conversation about the current health situation and how our global community is reacting. They talked about peace making and peace keeping, mediation, compassion, and hopefully finding our best selves when all is said and done.

How do we respond to crisis? How do we maintain a peaceful center and making meaningful contributions to our community in the midst of our own fears? One answer may be impartiality toward the outcome.

03/23/2020

How are you responding to Corona? Are you as present and non-obsessive as you can be? Are you as empathetic and compassionate as you can be?

Rhys Pasimio and Ben Poling offer commentary on the Corona Virus and the global reactions, on the internet, and in our communities. We discuss ideas on avoiding obsessing over fear while also cultivating empathy and connection. Whether you are more distressed by the Virus situation or more confident, we offer perspectives that we hope will be both challenging and helpful.

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

Rhys and Ben offer commentary on the Corona Virus and the global reactions, on the internet, and in our communities. We discuss ideas on avoiding obsessing over fear while also cultivating empathy and

03/13/2020

What is the difference between Bipolar I with Psychotic features, Schizophrenia, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, ADHD, and Borderline Personality Disorder, and how are all of these complicated by Drugs and Alcohol?
Welcome to the wonderful world of Clinical Diagnosis!
Whether you are trying to figure out your own experience, or trying to gain an understanding of someone else’s, this conversation may have useful tidbits for you!
Samantha Blazier reflects on her experience assessing and treating co-occurring disorders, and offers insights in how to identify a diagnosis by its features, treat the person in a holistic way, and communicate the data to the next provider!
This episode of SMART Counsel is from the archives and features former favorite co-host Joshua Moore.

What is the difference between Bipolar I with Psychotic features, Schizophrenia, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, ADHD, and Borderline Personality Disorder, and how are all of these complicated by Drug

02/17/2020

What is Religious or Spiritual Abuse? Who does it? Who is most hurt by it? Most importantly how do we support the survivors and prevent it from happening again?
Connie Baker has invested much of her personal and professional life addressing this problem in both clinical and religious settings. Recently she released the book “Traumatized by Religious Abuse: Courage, Hope, and Freedom for Survivors,” which is now available at Amazon and anywhere wonderful books are sold.
Rhys and Ben caught up with Connie one chilly evening in December. We shared stories, asked questions, and together dreamed of a more trauma informed counseling profession, as well as a safer and healthier church.
This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com
Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com
Connie Baker – connieabaker.com

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

What is Religious or Spiritual Abuse? Who does it? Who is most hurt by it? Most importantly how do we support the survivors and prevent it from happening again? Connie Baker has invested much of her p

12/02/2019

Where are you from? Easy question…right?
But what if you lived in five different countries before you finished high school, and none of them are where you live now, and even your parents were from somewhere other than here? How do you understand the culture you are in? How do you figure out how to act in a strange new world? Do you blend in? Do you make yourself exotic and cool? Moreso, how do you understand your very own self?
Welcome to the world of the TCK – the Third Culture Kid.
Rhys, Ben and special guest Stephen Black explore the wide and ever-changing world of being a TCK. Stephen reflects on his own experiences growing up on (only) three continents and how that impacts his sense of self, relationships, and sense of belonging. We talk about the unique challenges that TCK’s face, and how the mindful clinician might better support them. We also talk about the particular strengths and richness that a TCK carries within them, and how their global perspectives are a gift.

Where are you from? Easy question…right? But what if you lived in five different countries before you finished high school, and none of them are where you live now, and even your parents were from so

11/27/2019

Is it possible to become too dependent on therapy? Would that be a bad thing? Is being dependent on another human being actually a problem? What are the things that prevent us from relying on help and support from a fellow human being?
Rhys and Ben explore all this and more in our latest episode! Leave us your thoughts, and let's keep the conversation going!

This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com
Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

Is it possible to become too dependent on therapy? Would that be a bad thing? Is being dependent on another human being actually a problem? What are the things that prevent us from relying on help and