Center for Intimate Relationships, LLC

11/08/2025

A frequent conversation in the therapy room. Touch between couples creates the same bond that mothers and infants share. When touch becomes less frequent between partners, a couple's bond becomes more fragile and compassion and empathy feel harder to access.

Touch is one of the most powerful regulators of safety and connection in a relationship.
Couples who make physical affection a daily habit—hugs, hand-holding, back rubs, quiet cuddles—tend to feel closer, fight fairer, and repair faster.
And not every post is for everyone. If this isn’t your language of connection, that’s okay. The point is to find your way back to warmth and presence.

11/04/2025

Most people are familiar with fight, flight and freeze but many are not as familiar with FAWN.

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In the most basic sense, people who identify as “PEOPLE PLEASERS”, or who are CONFLICT AVOIDANT, operate from the fawn state.

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People who fawn often don’t state their truth, OVER-APOLOGIZE and/or TRY NOT TO "ROCK THE BOAT".

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Recently, my client and I explored INTIMACY AND REJECTION. It always seems “easier” to fawn in order to lower the risk of being rejected or abandoned.

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While it may seem as though you avoid rejection by fawning, another type of rejection emerges. When you don’t speak your truth, or when you try to keep the peace, you ABANDON yourself.

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This shifts from OTHER-REJECTION to SELF-REJECTION because you prioritize the other person’s needs and desires over your own.

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YOU REJECT AND ABANDON WHAT MATTERS TO YOU.

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10/29/2025

We released. We let go.

Big thank you to the dancers for coming out on Sunday!

❖ Remember your feet. 👣
❖ Connect to the ground that supports them. 🏞
❖ Be the tree that continues to grow and expand it’s limbs. 🌳
❖ Release what’s no longer serving you. 🍂

Our NEXT DANCE is NOVEMBER 30, 3:00! Sign up link is in the comments!

10/25/2025

WE DANCE TOMORROW, SUNDAY OCTOBER 26TH!
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THEME: Release and Let Go 🍁
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October has been a doozy, I'm sooooooo ready! 🕺🏽
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Link for details in the comments!
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PS: As always, the set list is FIRE!!!🔥🔥🔥

10/22/2025

Can you feel change in the air?

Here in the northeast, Autumn sets in. The winds shift, the temperature cools, the leaves fall. We are in transition, soon to peak in full color, then to release and let it all go.

If you struggle to release and let go, join me for my next conscious dance class, SUNDAY OCT 26, 2025. Sign up link in comments.

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10/19/2025

🌟🌟 Just ONE week away...SIGN UP NOW FOR MY NEXT CONSCIOUS DANCE CLASS ON OCTOBER 26TH 🌟🌟

Conscious dance is a free-form dance movement class, no "correct steps" required. There's no wrong way to do it!

Wednesday knows how to follow exactly what her body wants to do! And she doesn't do it for anyone but herself! ↓↓↓

SIGN UP LINK WILL BE POSTED IN THE COMMENTS:) 🍁🧹

10/17/2025

Beautiful inspiration as we move through the fall season. May the winds of Autumn help you release what's no longer serving you.

"Change comes about when you become who you really are, not when you try to become what you are not". ~ Buber

10/15/2025

FACT: Thoughts are not facts.

The mind produces thoughts the way lungs produce breath.
They come whether you invite them or not.

Some thoughts feel urgent.
Some try to convince you they’re facts.
But a thought is only an event in the mind—
not a command, not a prediction, not a truth you must obey.

🌿 Today, try this:
when a thought pulls you in, silently say,
“Just passing through.”
No argument. No shame.
Just awareness and release.

Your job isn’t to control the guests.
It’s to remember you’re the one who owns the house.

💚 Follow Mindfulness Exercises for more gentle reminders like this.

10/14/2025

Your nervous system takes cues in from the environment through sound, taste, sight, touch and scent. 👂🏼👅👀🤚🏼👃🏼

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It then creates a perception of these experiences which morph into thoughts in your brain. 🧠

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These thoughts then translate into beliefs about self/the world. 🌎

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You may think that your beliefs start with your thoughts in the brain, but in actuality, the journey to the formation of your beliefs starts through your senses and your nervous system.

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10/03/2025

In couples therapy, we talk about the role of the autonomic nervous system in relationships. In my view, I see two nervous systems sitting on my couch. Your nervous system helps you stay safe.

When it comes to your relationship...

❓ When do you find yourself feeling the most connected?

❓ When do you find yourself disconnecting?

❓ When do you completely shut down and stop engaging?

All three are 100% related to how safe you feel in your partnership.

Learning about the nervous system helps you understand your partner, yourself and the relationship you create together.

09/30/2025

Yuuuuuuuup. Pretty much this!

This!