09/21/2021
Loving people where they are at (sometimes up close and sometimes from afar). So much truth there, friends.
Sometimes we can see something clearly, and other times we don’t have the whole picture or understand the complexity of another person’s life and why they’re doing/choosing what they’re choosing.
I’ve been here before. I’ve believed with all of my being that someone ought to be doing XYandZ. I’d even go so far as to say I was objectively “right”. And yet, part of the work is realizing that THAT doesn’t matter.
Might the work be in letting go? In accepting that you aren’t here to determine the path for another? That you can love them but not save them?
Might some of our own pain be stuck in the need to control their path or destiny? Might there be peace in allowing ourselves to be with our sadness instead of doing something with it?
It’s hard to stand by when you see a person you love walking a path of suffering, destruction, and beyond. The impact that it has on us as partner, child, parent, or friend is significant, no doubt. . We must decide how we are going to participate in a way that both honors us and them. I don’t know what that answer is for you — that’s for your to explore and determine. Can you stay in their lives? Can it be unclose? Does it need to be with some space in it? Do you need to be fully cut off? There is not answer here for you that you can find outside of your own exploration. But I offer you the above to begin to explore what resonates and is supportive for you and the dynamic.
See you later for the follow up post and prompts. And please remember to invite a friend over to the page if you think these posts and prompts will be helpful.
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