05/11/2025                                                                            
                                    
                                                                            
                                            Mother’s Day When You’re the Strong One
By Kristine Fotland
SUN MAY 11, 2025
Some Mother’s Days feel like flowers and breakfast in bed.
Others feel like silence. Or effort. Or exhaustion.
Today I’m holding space for the women who’ve mothered from the margins—
the ones who’ve held it together when no one else could.
The ones who’ve mothered children, clients, communities… often without being mothered themselves.
If this day feels tender, complicated, or numb, you’re not alone.
Motherhood is not one thing.
It’s many things, all at once: Fierce protector. Emotional translator. Soother. Advocate.
It’s giving when you’re empty,
And loving when no one taught you how.
Some of us are healing generations forward.
Rewriting patterns as we raise children who will never know the wounds we once wore as normal.
And that’s sacred work.
But it’s also tiring. And unseen.
And today, maybe you just need someone to say:
I see you. I know how much you’ve carried. I know how much you’ve changed.
You didn’t wait for permission. You did what needed to be done.
You mother with your presence.
With your willingness to feel.
With your refusal to shut down or pass it on.
That’s legacy.
That’s love.
And if you don’t feel celebrated today, I hope you’ll celebrate yourself.
Even if it’s quiet. Even if it’s just a breath.
Because you are worth that and more.
Happy Mother’s Day—especially to the cycle breakers, the space holders, the soft warriors.
Love always,
Kristine