Megan Von Fricken

30/06/2025

High-control religions prescribe parenting practices that are know the create attachment injuries.

This is most often because of authoritarian parenting practices or emotional neglect.

Most people raised in a high control religion experience a combination of both of these.

If this resonates with you, I’m taking a much deeper dive into the topic of mother wounds in this week’s newsletter, and I’m planning to cover “Father Wounds” the following week.

👉🏻🔗 You can sign up by following the link in my bio!

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24/06/2025

Most of my clients are confronted with the challenging task of not only recovering from religious trauma, but healing from the attachment wounds that result from being raised by emotionally immature parents.

To understand more about emotionally immature parents, I recommend reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

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23/06/2025

Phrases like “self-love,” “self-care,” or “self-compassion” may even be quite triggering for you.

Those terms were definitely triggering for me for quite some time as well!

But if you reflect on your religious conditioning, you’ll probably find that attuning to yourself was NOT an option.

Everything you did needed to be about honoring god and being “Christlike.”

Over time, there’s very little conscious awareness that this outsourcing of the self is what’s going on.

It has simply become the default mode of operating.

This is why it’s important to understand how self-abandonment is often such a cornerstone of religious indoctrination.

AND why recovering from religious trauma often requires a great deal of intentionality behind learning to attune to yourself.

To YOUR wants.

And to YOUR needs.

Self-love, self-care, and self-compassion are not “selfish.”

Being able to embody these concepts simply means you’re no longer self-abandoning 🫶🏻

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16/06/2025

I’m sure you could give me many other examples of how these harmful teachings continue to affect you.

If you feel comfortable doing so, please share in the comments.

I think it’s helpful for others to see that they’re not alone.

While we’ve each been impacted in unique ways, there are often common threads woven through many of our experiences.


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This week’s email is about how rigid gender roles harm us all.

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07/10/2024

Over on Instagram, there’s been a hot debate going on amongst my community about the terminology “high control religion” and “religious cults.”

A lot of people felt the terms could be used interchangeably but thought "high control religion" was more accessible for those in the early stages of deconstruction.

Others thought there was a distinct difference between the two.

Care to know what I think? This article explains my perspective👇🏻

Uncover the hidden dangers of high control religions. Learn to identify authoritarian leadership, coercive control, and rigid belief systems that can harm individuals and society.

30/09/2024

Ever wondered about the connection between high control religions and narcissism?

💡 High control religions often foster narcissistic traits in folks who are predisposed to narcissism. They also tend to attract people who are already narcissistic.

✨ Overt religious narcissists might position themselves as 'spiritual elites' with unique insights. They often rise into leadership positions because they love being the center of attention. The word "charismatic" comes to mind.

🕵️ Covert religious narcissists are trickier to spot. They often play the victim or relish being "the martyr." This is strategic because they're using their perceived suffering to gain sympathy from others as a way of subtly coercing or controlling them.

💬 Have you known people like this? If so, there are a few strategies you can use to protect yourself from their tactics.

🔗 In this article, I go into much more depth about this topic and outline some strategies you can use.

Remember, your well-being is the most important thing. Keep educating yourself, setting boundaries, and seeking support! ❤️‍🩹

Discover how high-control religions foster narcissism, the traits to watch for, and strategies to protect yourself from both overt and covert narcissistic behaviors in religious settings.