11/20/2025
I hear SoOoOo many of my clients say “I didn’t know that was grief” around the holidays.
Grief isn’t only about death — it’s also about:
• the childhood you didn’t get
• the safety you never felt
• the family you had to emotionally parent
• the version of you that had to grow up too fast
• the fantasy holiday you hoped for but never experienced
• the coping strategies that protected you then, but exhaust you now
The holidays pull on old attachment threads. They activate sensory memories your body still holds onto EVEN IF your life is safe now. If you’re feeling “off,” overwhelmed, disconnected, irritable, or oddly sad this season…
your nervous system might actually be grieving. Not because you’re doing anything wrong,
but because you’re FINALLY safe enough for the truth to surface and to feel🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼