11/07/2024
We are living through times of tremendous change. It is natural for feelings to come up. It is natural to feel anger, sadness, shame, and fear. There are no wrong feelings.
Your feelings are not meant to be fixed – they are meant to be felt.
On my healing journey, one of the most important lessons I’ve learned has been the importance of honoring my pain. It takes courage to feel your pain. Many of us grew up with the belief that we need to avoid uncomfortable feelings and numb them.
The truth is: feeling is the way through. When we are brave enough to feel our pain, we discover our power and our truth.
The individualistic culture in the US tells us that we are supposed to go it alone. Grief certainly can be processed partly in solitude. However, we are also meant to grieve together. There is value in both self-regulation and co-regulation.
Last night, I called a friend, and we cried and raged together. Because I let myself feel, I woke up today with less tension and more energy. I woke up feeling more empowered than I have in a long time.
I woke with the clarity about what I am supposed to do now: support others to feel into their emotions and find their strength.
If you are feeling overwhelmed with emotions, I encourage you to reach out to someone you trust to hold space for you. There is a good chance they need support, too.
From my time working in the mental health field and then as a coach, I have experience holding space for other people’s pain. I’ve studied and shared many tools which help people feel, move through pain, and find purpose. These tools include breathwork, visualization, and tapping.
And if you are interested in receiving support from me, I would be honored to hold space for you. I am offering sessions to support people during this challenging time. My fees are on a sliding scale. Message me to set up a time.
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It is time to come together and grieve.
It is time to remember that we are strong.
Our ancestors found ways to survive and thrive.
And so will we.
