05/31/2026
I published a new Substack ARGUE LIKE AN IMPROVISER that includes some field-tested improv tools for navigating conflict. The link to the article is in bio.
When we improvise in a pair or a group, we agree to make something together out of the intangible current that is creativity. We open ourselves to what is possible. This mindset can be very helpful in situations of conflict, when we have to try to absorb someone else’s point of view in order to respond to it. Three improv tools for navigating conflict:
1.) Think of yourself as a character in a scene. We are layered, defensive creatures who need all the help we can get through the uncomfortable - and sometimes nearly unbearable - moments when expressing what we think or want upsets another person. If doing this is literally “out of character” for us, we may need to create a character to get through it.
2.) Listen like it matters. A fundamental improv skill is to focus on repeating what the other person says. It helps calm the stress reaction to be intentional about absorbing what is shared before reacting.
3). Have a philosophy and fully own it. Facts do not persuade when emotions are high. A philosophy does not require anything of the other person, but it does establish our boundary and where we are coming from.
