Spotless Mind Mental Health LI

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The Marshmallow Test: What Decades of Research RevealedIn the late 1960s and early 1970s, psychologist Walter Mischel an...
10/25/2025

The Marshmallow Test: What Decades of Research Revealed

In the late 1960s and early 1970s, psychologist Walter Mischel and his colleagues at Stanford University conducted the Marshmallow Test. Preschool-aged children were offered one marshmallow immediately or two if they waited for about 15 minutes without eating the first.

Early follow-up studies suggested that children who waited longer tended to have better life outcomes, including higher academic achievement and SAT scores. These results were widely interpreted as evidence that self-control in early childhood predicts long-term success.

Today, the Marshmallow Test is understood as highlighting both individual self-regulation and environmental context—showing that the ability to delay gratification depends not only on willpower but also on trust, stability, and access to consistent resources.

Behavior Chain Analysis is a structured DBT tool that helps identify the steps leading up to a problematic behavior. By ...
10/24/2025

Behavior Chain Analysis is a structured DBT tool that helps identify the steps leading up to a problematic behavior. By tracing what happened before, during, and after the behavior, patterns become clearer and easier to change.

It begins with the prompting event that started the chain. Next are vulnerabilities, or factors that made the reaction more likely, such as fatigue or stress. The chain of events includes thoughts, emotions, and actions that followed in sequence. Finally, you identify the consequences of the behavior and consider more skillful responses that could replace it in the future.

Implementing the Behavior Chain Analysis can help break down issues into clear, manageable steps that highlight where change is possible. By tracing what led up to a behavior, it becomes easier to see which parts of the chain can be adjusted.

When low mood or burnout make it hard to stay engaged, even the smallest actions can start to shift things. Behavioral A...
10/22/2025

When low mood or burnout make it hard to stay engaged, even the smallest actions can start to shift things. Behavioral Activation, a CBT-based approach, helps rebuild motivation by focusing on what’s doable and rewarding in life.

The process shown in the image below breaks this into three parts:

Behaviors — Choose activities that you enjoy or find meaningful, no matter how small. Building a list of these makes it easier to follow through and create moments of positivity.

Ease of Completion — Identify how achievable each activity feels. Starting with the simplest tasks, like taking a walk or making your bed are easy and rewarding.

Reward — which actions bring a sense of satisfaction or relief? Completing easier or less rewarding tasks will facilitate success as its difficulty increases.

Behavioral action sparks motivation and builds your ability to tackle bigger challenges, one small step at a time.

Emotional regulation is closely connected to physical health. DBT’s PLEASE skills provide a framework to support both mi...
10/17/2025

Emotional regulation is closely connected to physical health. DBT’s PLEASE skills provide a framework to support both mind and body. They focus on caring for physical illness, maintaining balanced nutrition, avoiding mood-altering substances, keeping consistent sleep, exercising regularly, and engaging in meaningful or mastery-building activities.

Practicing these skills can reduce emotional vulnerability, improve overall functioning, and help individuals respond to stress more effectively. These are concrete, actionable steps—not abstract concepts—for everyday emotional management.

The attached image breaks down each PLEASE step, showing exactly how physical self-care contributes to emotional balance.

Committed Action is the behavioral heart of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). After identifying what truly matter...
10/17/2025

Committed Action is the behavioral heart of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). After identifying what truly matters through values work, clients begin taking practical steps that align with those values. These actions are driven by a deeper commitment to living meaningfully, even when challenges arise.

Rather than waiting to feel ready, Committed Action encourages movement toward goals through small, consistent behaviors. Each step reinforces flexibility and resilience, showing that progress can coexist with discomfort.

This process helps transform avoidance into engagement by choosing actions guided by values instead of fleeting emotions. Our commitment to living in line with our values sparks the shift that becomes the foundation of growth.

Exposure therapy comes from CBT, which emphasizes how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors interact. By gradually facing fe...
10/15/2025

Exposure therapy comes from CBT, which emphasizes how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors interact. By gradually facing feared situations, we give our brains the chance to learn that what we anticipate as dangerous is often less threatening than imagined.

Each step helps reduce anxiety and builds confidence, showing that avoidance isn’t the only option. Over time, this process rewires habitual thought patterns and responses.

Ultimately, exposure guides us toward meaningful goals. Whether it’s forming new relationships or pursuing opportunities, taking small, intentional steps helps turn fear into progress.

In the 1990s, neuroscientists discovered mirror neurons—brain cells that activate both when we perform an action, and wh...
10/13/2025

In the 1990s, neuroscientists discovered mirror neurons—brain cells that activate both when we perform an action, and when we observe someone else doing it. This breakthrough explained why we naturally feel with others, forming the biological basis of empathy.

In counseling, this finding supports Humanistic and Interpersonal theories, which emphasize authentic connection as a path to healing. When clients experience genuine empathy, their nervous systems mirror safety and understanding, allowing emotional regulation and trust to rebuild.

True healing starts when we offer understanding and safety to one another. Empathy isn’t just a feeling, it’s a reflection of the connection our brains are wired to create.

Thorndike’s Law of Effect, a cornerstone of Behaviorist Psychology, shows that we naturally repeat behaviors followed by...
10/13/2025

Thorndike’s Law of Effect, a cornerstone of Behaviorist Psychology, shows that we naturally repeat behaviors followed by positive outcomes and avoid those linked with discomfort. Two related ideas expand this: the Law of Exercise, which strengthens behaviors through repetition, and the Law of Readiness, which reminds us that learning sticks best when we’re emotionally prepared to grow.

In mental health counseling, these laws explain why lasting change comes from reinforcing progress, practicing new skills, and timing interventions when a client feels safe and ready. When therapy rewards positive behaviors our nervous system learns, and healing becomes a practiced, reinforced behavior.

From Trauma Theory, control develops as a learned safety strategy after periods of fear or instability. When life felt u...
10/11/2025

From Trauma Theory, control develops as a learned safety strategy after periods of fear or instability. When life felt unpredictable, the mind and body adapted by holding tightly to structure and certainty.

Polyvagal Theory shows us how this works in the body: the nervous system stays in a state of alertness, mistaking calm for danger. Even long after the threat has passed, the body can remain braced for impact.

Therapy helps retrain these responses. Through grounding and gradual exposure to uncertainty, our nervous system learns safety without control.

Try this: Use a “Safety Mapping” exercise — write down moments when you feel the need to control, notice where that tension shows up in your body, and pair it with slow, intentional breathing. This helps the nervous system experience safety while letting go.

Emotions push us to act, but not every impulse encourages healthy behavior. In DBT, the skill of Opposite Action teaches...
10/09/2025

Emotions push us to act, but not every impulse encourages healthy behavior. In DBT, the skill of Opposite Action teaches us to respond in ways that support our long-term goals rather than short-term urges. Practicing these opposite actions helps retrain emotional responses, reduce reactivity, and build lasting resilience.

When fear urges us to avoid, the opposite action is to approach. When sadness tells us to withdraw, the opposite is to reach out or engage.

By practicing opposite actions consistently, we gradually train new emotional responses. Over time, this reduces reactivity and builds lasting emotional resilience.

Below is an Opposite Action worksheet designed to challenge intense emotions and develop more balanced perspectives. Small shifts in thinking can reshape emotional patterns and strengthen our ability to respond with clarity instead of impulse.

Trauma and Recovery — Judith Herman (1992)Judith Herman, in her landmark book Trauma and Recovery, describes grounding a...
10/08/2025

Trauma and Recovery — Judith Herman (1992)

Judith Herman, in her landmark book Trauma and Recovery, describes grounding as the first step in healing from trauma. Before we can process what’s happened, we must first find stability in the here and now. Grounding reconnects the mind and body, reminding us that we are safe, capable, and present.

Research shows that sensory grounding can reduce the intensity of flashbacks and panic by activating the parts of the brain responsible for orientation and safety. In counseling, grounding might look like focusing on the feeling of your feet on the floor, describing the colors in the room, or naming five things you can see. These simple actions can quiet racing thoughts and anchor us in the present.

Click the link to gain full access to Judith Herman’s groundbreaking work, Trauma and Recovery, and discover how grounding forms the foundation of healing.

https://ia803207.us.archive.org/14/items/radfem-books/Trauma%20and%20Recovery_%20The%20Afterm%20-%20Judith%20L.%20Herman.pdf

Small actions change the brain!Behavioral Activation, a concept from CBT explains how our actions can influence our emot...
10/07/2025

Small actions change the brain!

Behavioral Activation, a concept from CBT explains how our actions can influence our emotions. When we stop engaging in daily activities because of low mood or exhaustion, life begins to feel smaller and motivation fades.

By gradually adding back small, purposeful actions, we can interrupt that pattern. Taking a short walk, cooking a simple meal, or organizing a space helps the brain relearn how to respond to positive experiences. Over time, these small choices strengthen mood, energy, and a sense of control.

We don’t have to wait until we feel motivated to act. Taking the first step is what brings motivation back! 🩷

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Spotless Mind Mental Health Counseling PLLC offers individual, couple, family and group therapy, screening and assessment. Appointments are available Sunday-Saturday. Same-day appointments may also be available, please call to schedule (631) 365-4454. We look forward to working with you on your journey.

Peace of mind,

Jenna Marie Vogler MA, CMHC Executive Director