30/07/2021
YOU matter too! Still. Forever! No matter how many perfect babies you have. Pour back in to your cup. Be gentle to yourself.
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There are times when I feel like the person I was before becoming a mother is a stranger to me now.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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She was different. She was care free. She spent more time with herself. She laughed a little more. She made sure she had fun no matter what. She worried about less. She looked different. She acted different. She held herself differently. She had goals and dreams that she wanted to chase. She was more selfish. But she was free. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But one day, she disappeared and someone else came in and took her place. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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She was more disciplined. She was serious. She had more to worry about. She was angry at times. She had people who depended on her. She had to think about her actions and consequences. She didn’t recognize her new body. She pushed those dreams to the side to focus on what was in front of her. She was overwhelmed. She was no longer selfish. But she also no longer felt free.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And there lies one of the hardest issues we as mothers struggle with-⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Losing ourselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It’s so easy to put ourselves on the back burner when we become a parent. We easily forget who we once were, what made us happy, what we wanted in life. We become consumed by our new life that we forget about the one we wanted before becoming mothers.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yes, some things do have to change with motherhood. But not everything. You are still a person. A person with dreams. A person with needs. A person with feelings. A person who matters.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And you deserve to take care of you just as much as you take care of everyone else. You deserve to be happy, to worry less, and to live the life you want. You still matter mama.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Please don’t forget how important you are because at the end of the day, your family needs a happy mom. But most importantly, you need (and deserve) a happy YOU.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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